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129 replies

WingsgivenbyRedBull · 16/10/2022 14:46

I’ve been lucky that I’ve not had nightmare neighbours, just rude and inconsiderate ones.

One ex neighbour used to use my driveway all the time until I blocked him in and he stopped.

Had the excessive noise ones - months of renovations, barking dog and crying baby.

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WingsgivenbyRedBull · 16/10/2022 15:54

BelleMarionette · 16/10/2022 14:58

I had a neighbour text me asking me not to use the communal garden... That was pretty shocking.

As for your examples, a crying baby can't generally be helped. I had one with colic who screamed for hours every day.

But clearly my example wasn’t just a crying baby though was it?

You’ve just decided to ignore that I also said they’d also done months of renovations and a dog that constantly barked.

So yes a crying baby AND banging on the shared wall for hours 7 days a week and a dog that barked none stop when left does actually get pretty annoying to live next to.

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TimBoothseyes · 16/10/2022 15:59

From years ago.

NDN in a 2 bed house with 5 large dogs. She had 2 young DC as well who stayed indoors as the only outside space was covered in dog muck ( SS got involved and the DC were removed and placed in her sister's care).
Environmental health also got involved and I cried with relief the day she and her dogs were evicted.

Fairyflaps · 16/10/2022 16:03

One of our neighbours is the local character. He has been harassing myself and my family for a few years now, but we have had a bit of peace since the police gave him a warning in August.

DottieGinger · 16/10/2022 16:07

In our old house our neighbours on the right got their garden renovated which included knocking down and the boundary wall and rebuilding it and replacing some parts with a fence. They told us the work would take three weeks. First thing they did was take down the wall so we were without a boundary - which we new about and we’re fine with given it was only three weeks. That was in July and we didn’t actually get a complete boundary until 5 months later in October!! We have a dog so need a secure garden!

We we’re so relieved that the boundary was done and we had a secure garden went off for a weeks holiday came back and our other neighbour had taken down the fence on the other side and not put a fence back saying he “saw an opportunity to take it down because it was old”. We were like okay fair enough it does need replacing. Two weeks later we still have no fence… we go round ask when it’s going to be done… he says he’s not sure because they have a baby on the way… at this moment in time we were also looking at getting a rescue dog and needed to be able to show we had a secure garden so it was really stressful with one dog already and wanting another one…
After another week or so his partner emailed saying they were really busy and it would be January when the fence would be up! Baring in mind they took it down in October!
They said they had the materials so we said if you’re short on time my husband and I will do it. The guy had this weird complexion though where he had to do everything himself in the house though so this suggestion fell on deaf ears…
Eventually I sent them a stroppy email telling them to get on with it and then they suddenly found time and did it! The whole thing we were without a complete boundary for six months!! We did get a wonderful little rescue dog in the end though… we have since moved and moved much earlier than we wanted to because of these neighbours!
One time we even got back from work one day and there was scaffolding up against and on our property as they were getting their roof done… never asked us permission we were fuming but new we were moving soon so just kept our heads done for the last few months.

larkstar · 16/10/2022 16:08

A strange tall long-bearded guy next door - had a loft full of women's underwear stolen from washing lines and launderettes (so we were told by neighbours) - as a condition of our mortgage lender we had to brick up the small triangular gap at the top of the roof that linked our lofts together as it was a fire risk. He was seen dressed on women's clothes playing in the local children's play area on swings and slides in the middle of the night. His boa constrictor escaped once and there was a search of everyone's garden - it was eventually found in his house. He burned a sofa in his back garden - his shed caught fire and the goat that was tied to it also caught fire and had to be put down. My small kids complained of getting tingly shocks off the wire fence that divided our properties at the back and on the outside tap - I went round to various neighbours houses to see if they were also experiencing any problems and soon narrowed the cause of the problem down to an electrical problem - a live fault to earth at my weirdo neighbours place - I went round to try and find out what was going on - his son (didn't even know he had a son) answered the door and said in a slow, totally over medicated voice - "Have you got my tablets?" - no idea why he was there, never seen him there before, his father was out - I asked if I could look in the house never having been inside. The back kitchen was under an inch of water, upstairs was a bedroom with bare floorboards and a hot water cylinder in the middle of the room with pipes running all over the top of the floorboards and water leaking everywhere. I went down stairs and removed the main fuse from the fusebox cutting off the electricity to the property - the earth fault went away. When the father returned - he rang the police who came round to threaten me with arrest for theft - the police were totally unhelpful - I had to return the fuse but I had already rang the electricity board to get someone out and social services about his son being at home on his own. If I stop and think I'm sure there are other things that happened in the 16 years I lived next door to him. He became a Sikh at one time... anyway, enough for now.

jeaux90 · 16/10/2022 16:08

Not bad but a CF. Neighbour pretends the visitor parking space is his. Even though we all know it's not because it's explicit in everyone's deeds.

WingsgivenbyRedBull · 16/10/2022 16:09

sewexe · 16/10/2022 15:53

Elderly woman and her even more elderly mother lived next door. Terraced houses. Before we had kids.

We heard from the local Council our neighbours had complained we were very noisy. They reported us playing drums all night ... Council man visited, noise metered, found no noise. Neighbours said we'd been sneaky: we'd kept quiet but then started up the drumming again after the Council man left.

Relations went from bad to worse. They would shout at us, knock on walls, ... continued to talk about drums, tom-toms, jungle music ... All night, they said. Kept on at the Council, everyone they could find to listen. "Playing their drum kit last night again! 3 o'clock in the morning!"

Council man came round again to try to mediate. We did not own a drum kit, or any tom-toms. No drums of any kind. We slept all night, tired out ... young early-career teachers, both of us. No drumming. Still the old women complained, complained, moaned, whinged, to us, the Council, other neighbours ...

Then finally, after months of this, one night I was woken by a loud thunderstorm. Tried to get back to sleep. But, wait! I could hear - not very loud, but distinct - the noise of tom-toms being played. I woke my partner. Noise from the back of the house. We put our raincoats on, went out the back. Yes! definitely someone playing drums. Rhythmic tom-tom sounds from next doors' back garden.

I climbed over the fence. Found the source of the noise: below a hole in our neighbours' gutter, an empty upturned paint can. "Patter, patter, patter, tom tom TOM ..." as the rain fell from the broken gutter on to the upturned
empty can.

We told our neighbours. They moved the empty can. An apology? No, they couldn't manage that. Sadly, the older woman died; her daughter left. We also moved on. As soon as we could, got ourselves a little detached house. Neighbours? Best kept at a distance.

I’m confused. How was there the sound of drums each night of it wasn’t raining?

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Bestcatmum · 16/10/2022 16:11

Single man on the left and single man on the right. Not noisy but lived in filth and their gardens were so overgrown I had to get specially reinforced fencing to stop the mass of plants knocking them over.
They never seemed to do anything but sit in their homes and watch tv. Tragic.
Alcoholic opposite across the small communal green, used to get absolutely hammered and then sit in his car and rev it up. If he had ever managed to get the car going it would have gone straight into my living room.
Family with 6 kids 2 doors up who were in the garden shrieking from 6am to 19pm at night.
It was supposed to be my dream home but I had to move, I couldn't bear any of them.
I live in the west country now and my small cul de sac is quiet bliss.

TwoTowels · 16/10/2022 16:13

In my bedsit days, many years ago, the (one) communal shower room was on the top floor and the loo was one floor below. The men who lived in the top room decided it was a good idea to piss in the shower instead of going down one flight of stairs to the loo. They didn't even bother to rinse it out so the shower tray was always full of piss.

Escapetothecatshome · 16/10/2022 16:36

Ours are Obsessed and I do mean Obsessed with emptying every bit of rubbish and food waste into their bins right beside the fence which is about 6 feet away from the living room, and like to make sure they bang the bin lids down every time, and I'm not talking a normal bang they make sure to make as much noise as possible every time.
Does anyone else have bin obsessed neighbours ?😖

KarenPirie72 · 16/10/2022 16:40

Escapetothecatshome · 16/10/2022 16:36

Ours are Obsessed and I do mean Obsessed with emptying every bit of rubbish and food waste into their bins right beside the fence which is about 6 feet away from the living room, and like to make sure they bang the bin lids down every time, and I'm not talking a normal bang they make sure to make as much noise as possible every time.
Does anyone else have bin obsessed neighbours ?😖

Er, where else do you want them to put it?

Escapetothecatshome · 16/10/2022 16:45

@KarenPirie72

I think if your neighbours were banging their bins all night long you might understand what I mean :)

GettingStuffed · 16/10/2022 16:46

We've had two , one a blissful of students playing the same record loudly over and over again in the early hours. We had a newborn. It stopped when we took the baby outside their house and let him cry loudly for a couple of minutes. He had colic and was a pain to burp. The other was one who reported us repeatedly to the RSPCA. Our cat was very old and had nerve damage as a result of breaking both legs falling out of a free when he was a kitten. The result of this was a strange gait and patchy fur. The first time it happened they asked us when he last saw a vet and I could prove it was a few days earlier as he needed medication for a heart condition. The other times they just looked at him and said he was fine.

MrsMoastyToasty · 16/10/2022 16:46

My DM ended up with a brothel next door. Men visiting at all times of the day and night. Landlords were absent and didn't care as long as they got their rent.

Brigante9 · 16/10/2022 17:02

One neighbour built a coffin in his back garden. Once his python escaped, I was shitting myself because I had cats. He used to wear a t-shirt with ‘Jesus is a cunt’ on it. My strongly Christian neighbour complained to the police and I think he was visited and told not to wear it in public because it was a public order offence or something (we’re going way back)

Vaccine001 · 16/10/2022 20:07

Escape what part of the UK are you in? I want.to check your post isn't about us 🤣

Cinders88 · 16/10/2022 20:14

A company bought the house next to us and started turning it into a HMO. The building work stopped, and there is all sorts of rubble and general waste strewn all over the front and back gardens, although the back is now so overgrown that not a lot of it can’t be seen anymore. The fence at the back has been pulled down so it’s easily accessible from an alley, and people have been flytipping mattresses, doors and other waste. There’s also a fridge/freezer dumped in the front garden.

We started getting a leak after they had redone the roof .. water coming in through cracks appearing in the hallway ceiling when it rains. Now it’s coming through the light in DS nursery. We’ve tried numerous times to speak with various people at the company who say they’ll take responsibility, then stop communication altogether. The council have been round to check it out and issued a notice to the company that orders them to fix it .. they haven’t responded. Environmental health have issued a notice to clear the front and back gardens, which has been ignored. Although the owner is now trying to dissolve the company to avoid it all. We’re now having to go through the house insurance to get the roof fixed and the damage rectified, which will obviously require paying an excess and our premiums will increase. We’re going to need at least part of the ceilings removed and the wallpaper is peeling off the walls because of the moisture. All this with a DS who has just turned one and can’t use his nursery.

Absolutely fuming.

We thought we were quite lucky when we first moved in because we barely heard any noise from next door .. turns out it was a grow house which got raided by police. It was then sold on to this company to turn into a HMO .. not at all pleased about that! Hopefully the next person who buys it wants to turn it into a family home .. we’ll see!

MummaTrinee · 16/10/2022 20:17

Wheresmymoneytree · 16/10/2022 15:27

My neighbour once climbed through my window for a cup of tea. I had met her 2/3 times in the street and said hi. She saw the large window was open and climbed on a bench then through the window to save knocking.

I never opened that window again.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

purpleme12 · 16/10/2022 20:34

So far we're on the tenth malicious report to social services has been made about me perpetuating abuse....

That is of course on top of the multiple 999 calls perpetuating the same thing...

This is without mentioning everything else they've done. The above is the worse because of what they're trying to insinuate.

I have now come to the sad conclusion that I actually don't think the malicious reports to SS will ever stop. Seriously

TwoTowels · 17/10/2022 23:26

Cinders88 · 16/10/2022 20:14

A company bought the house next to us and started turning it into a HMO. The building work stopped, and there is all sorts of rubble and general waste strewn all over the front and back gardens, although the back is now so overgrown that not a lot of it can’t be seen anymore. The fence at the back has been pulled down so it’s easily accessible from an alley, and people have been flytipping mattresses, doors and other waste. There’s also a fridge/freezer dumped in the front garden.

We started getting a leak after they had redone the roof .. water coming in through cracks appearing in the hallway ceiling when it rains. Now it’s coming through the light in DS nursery. We’ve tried numerous times to speak with various people at the company who say they’ll take responsibility, then stop communication altogether. The council have been round to check it out and issued a notice to the company that orders them to fix it .. they haven’t responded. Environmental health have issued a notice to clear the front and back gardens, which has been ignored. Although the owner is now trying to dissolve the company to avoid it all. We’re now having to go through the house insurance to get the roof fixed and the damage rectified, which will obviously require paying an excess and our premiums will increase. We’re going to need at least part of the ceilings removed and the wallpaper is peeling off the walls because of the moisture. All this with a DS who has just turned one and can’t use his nursery.

Absolutely fuming.

We thought we were quite lucky when we first moved in because we barely heard any noise from next door .. turns out it was a grow house which got raided by police. It was then sold on to this company to turn into a HMO .. not at all pleased about that! Hopefully the next person who buys it wants to turn it into a family home .. we’ll see!

@Cinders88 That's disgraceful. Get on to your ward councillor— they will have connections at the council that can get these things moving.

MayISuggestSomeThickCutSteakChipsToGoWithThat · 17/10/2022 23:42

Not my neighbour but her twat of a grandson! Hung a white wash outside and because the wind blew the clothes back and forth between our window and hers he came out and chopped the washing line down. Dumping my lovely clean white washing all over a wet floor. Wanker! Apparently it wasn't fair she had to see the washing on the line (bed-bound) oh and the old neighbour who lived above. Used to have the most over exaggerated sex at 2 in the morning. Put up with it for so long but In the end I bashed on the ceiling with a broom handle and shouted at them to get a bloody life

axillarytailofspence · 18/10/2022 00:04

I had a shared driveway. All ok when families lived next door. Then students moved in. They made my life an absolute misery. Blocked my car in and I couldn't get to a home birth. They fired some kind of bb gun at my garden lights. Lots of other stuff. University got involved - was thankfully taken very seriously.
My advice --- never buy a house with a shared driveway.

Slicedpeaches · 18/10/2022 00:24

I live am the only girl in a student house with six men, I guess its more like housemates than neighbors but still. Apart from generally being messy, loud, and filling the house with empty bottles, dirty socks and the smell of weed; I have walked in on three of them wanking.
Two on seperate occasions in our shared bathroom- one had not locked the door, the other had not even closed it. And the third was doing it in our kitchen. The damn kitchen.
They are not the worst people I have lived with but they are probably the grossest. Someone has also recently trimmed their pubes in the sink and left them there, next to the toothbrushes.

Clevererthanyou · 18/10/2022 00:26

Not nightmare but CF neighour 2 doors over. Orders parcels and has them delivered every.single.day, not a problem right? Except she is never in to receive them and has told every courier and the Royal Mail that "Cleverer at number 9 will take them in" so I get bailiff slams at all hours of the day upto 8pm at night from her couriers and I take the bloody things in. I have told her that I work and my DH works, she knows I'm disabled and can't lift things but she legitimately doesnt care.

My lovely neighbours directly next door have informed me that they no longer speak to her due to this behaviour as she is in her house when the boxes arrive and can't be bothered to be disturbed. She phones and texts me when SHE is ready to collect 🤬🤬🤬

expat101 · 18/10/2022 00:38

We had a former neighbour jumping over into our property taking photos for whinging purposes, ended up getting the police in to give him a warning. Didn't realise he was also using google earth to watch changes to our property and even used the time line to try and prove this and that... anyhow he has moved on but I wonder now if he was creeping around ours of a night time too. The new neighbours knew of our property layout from him....