Ugh I just need a rant and a chance to have my head wobbled for me! Don't read if you can't be arsed to read trivial marital nonsense!
My DH has a stressful job and has a piece of work that needs checking and emailing out before or on Monday. He was saying he'd need to do it over the weekend - fine. Each weekend we give each other a lie in as we have a two year old, and DH takes two year old to football for an hour Sunday morning and I tend to take DC to the park with me Sat morning. Anyway today DH had his lie in and I got up and looked after toddler. When DH got up I asked if he was going do his work this morning and get it out the way. He said no, as on second thoughts he felt like he didn't want to waste his weekend on this work and was going to push it back until Monday. He said he'd like to go out and get coffee together, so we ended up going out to the duck pond as a family and then doing family stuff this afternoon too. All afternoon he's been snappy with me which I've tried to overlook as I got the feeling his work was stressing him out.
This evening it's DH turn to put toddler to bed as I've done it all week as DH works long hours, so he normally does toddlers bedtime story on Saturday. However toddler is crying for mummy so I end up doing it anyway. When I come down DH is really stressy with me saying he's going to have to do his work now tonight as he can see there won't be any other opportunity this weekend as no doubt I will want my lie in tomorrow morning and I will expect DH to take our child to football which he does on Sunday mornings. He wonders why he sees other mums there and why I can't go along sometimes, even though I point out that the timings mean I'd have to skip my lie in.
I think he's stressed about his work but I was annoyed because the implication was I should offer to give up my lie in (which coincides with football starting).
I don't think it's fair when he could have done his work earlier today and I was ready and prepared to take toddler all morning. DH said he's changed his mind since then and is feeling stressed about the work so wants to do it. Fair enough but then that's his choice - he could have got it done this morning.
Instead he's told me I'm being inflexible, and that I've created stress. He's gone off to work when we were planning to watch strictly and have a takeaway. I asked if he wanted me to sort out his dinner and he said no, he'll order himself a late night pizza.
AIBU to be annoyed that our evening has been ruined and annoyed that the blame's been put on me for being inflexible when really DH just needed to communicate his thoughts about his work stress with me better?