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To ask for weird comments you’ve recieved from strangers?

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aluminiumwaterbottle · 15/10/2022 17:06

Mine tended to happen when I was in my early/mid teens. I was quite tall and my dress sense was older (not in an inappropriate way, just plain colours etc). I used to go shopping with my dad a lot as we both had a love of cooking and would get ingredients together then cook with them at home.

I can think of several different occasions where I was mistaken for my dad’s (in his mid-50s during this time) much younger girlfriend.

The first time, I pointed and something and said to dad “Let’s go and have a look at this.” and he followed me. An older woman tutted and said to dad “Well you clearly go where the young girls go.” Dad was in too much shock to correct her, and she buggered off. We often got looks in the shop as well.

Another time at a motorway service station on the way to a holiday. My mum and brother stayed in the car and we went in to get coffees. Friendly barista asked where we were going, and my dad replied ‘Cornwall’. The barista then said “Ah, romantic break?” and my dad corrected him that I was his daughter and it was a family holiday. The barista’s face was a picture.

These incidents eventually made me too insecure to go out just me and my dad, which is a shame. I always wondered how messed up those people’s lives must’ve been to assume something grim like that rather than us just being a father and daughter.

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VeganFromSveden · 15/10/2022 20:56

Shadowlands, almost exactly was said to me..
I was too dumbfounded to react in any way at the time.
laters, it really got to me.
even now, years later, I find it so very difficult to believe my partners lovely comments to me.
as pp said, just keep your thoughts to yourself.
I did like the other pp saying that she tries to give genuine compliments.
me too, it costs zero to say something positive, and likely to bring a smile into that persons life.
not everyone can shrug off careless or even nasty comments if they are not feeling confident for any reason.
so although it makes sense to ignore, logic doesn’t always cut it.
re the comment made to you… they are the ugliest with their thoughtless or horrid tongue.
x

FurnitureDisease · 15/10/2022 21:06

Horrid woman on a long haul flight, seat next to mine, scolding me for not taking care of my baby properly as he is always crying … he was sound asleep in baby bassinet. Absolutely no clue what she was apparently hearing

lljkk · 16/10/2022 07:39

hmmm... my dad looked young for his age, we look hugely alike, he was kinda young when I was born (24), but no one ever mistook me for his girlfriend or sister: dad does have siblings who are 17-19 years younger than himself. People have said sharp things about my parenting but usually in the rumours way not straight to my face.

Under "weird", I can only think of unwelcome lewd comments from men, tbh, and oh well, if you read Richard Feynman's book, sometimes those comments get guys somewhere with a woman. It's a matter of numbers so the best strategy is to keep saying them to as many women as possible. That is why men keep saying them.

weemouse · 16/10/2022 09:47

Me this morning, out for a jog, passed a woman playing with her kids, and her dog started jumping up on me.
It would not listen to her recalling it, so I said hey, control your dog, and she said "oh smile a bit, it's Sunday morning"

Eh no missus, just control your dog and get it the fuck of me!

LT2 · 16/10/2022 10:05

FurnitureDisease · 15/10/2022 21:06

Horrid woman on a long haul flight, seat next to mine, scolding me for not taking care of my baby properly as he is always crying … he was sound asleep in baby bassinet. Absolutely no clue what she was apparently hearing

You sure she wasn't being sarcastic? Because baby was calm and quiet.

BuryingAcorns · 16/10/2022 10:11

I have twins. One was very ill and didn't grow at all in his first year, so he still weighed only about 10lbs when he was a year old. Old men used to look at T1 ans T2 and say, 'You didn't waste much time did you?' because they thought there was about 9 months between them.

I also remember a man on the bus haranguing me that DT1 was 'not normal' and I should take him immediately for check ups as he failed to respond to the man when he pulled funny faces at him. The man insisted he was a doctor and knew about these things. Maybe. But it turned out DT1 was just about to nod off for a nap and as too tired to play with a Random when Random insisted.

FurnitureDisease · 16/10/2022 10:34

LT2 no she was deadly serious and had attitudey tone to her voice. I was baffled.

Her own kid started kicking off soon after though and I refrained from being petty and saying anything 😂

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