to just not have it together?

[theprettyhummingbird]

this post is mainly for working moms, but i'd appreciate some advice/ tips from everyone ofcourse.

i'm having some trouble managing my time between house, work, baby, cooking, etc.

I'm currently A Stay at home mom, taking care of our Son making sure he is entertained and learning, as well as managing house chores, cooking cleaning etc. I also have a small side hustle that I'm working on from home for 2-3 hours a day (mainly during DS nap time)

I find it quite overwhelming and feel like i'm always slacking somewhere and just can't have it all together, although on paper it seems that i'm not doing much at all.

if anyone has any tips and tricks as in how to manage my time better that would be great.

P.S my partner pays for all our expenses, food, mortgage, car, holidays, outings, everything we need as well as gives me a decent allowance monthly to spend for myself so the agreement was he takes care of all the finances and I take care of the house (happily) (just saying this as i know some people will say ask for help from DP) although he does happily take out DC for me to have a break or go out alone etc.

thank you in advance

How old is DS?

Also get a cleaner!!! If you're struggling that is my absolute top tip. And take some time away on the weekends for yourself

Are you trying to do too many things at once i.e. "multi-tasking". If so, this is the least effective way to manage your time. You need a routine.
Also, running a business with a baby at home and no childcare isn't usually possible, despite what MLM adverts tell you

If you only work 2-3 hours a day and have one child (assuming no SEN) then life really shouldn't feel overwhelming at all IMO, so I wonder if you are setting very high standards for yourself. Are you trying to keep the house spotless, cook all meals from scratch and feel pressure to constantly be engaging with your child during their waking hours? Does your DP really do nothing around the house at all- are you expected to clear up after him?

The thing is that most people who work full time (or part time) outside the home have childcare while they're working. So actually I can imagine that you do feel busy if you're doing 2-3 hours a day but trying to squeeze it around looking after DS. Especially if your DP does nothing at all!

You have to include clearing up each task in to the time you set aside to do it.

So dinnertime isn't finished until the kitchen is clean, work isn't finished until that is all tidied away, bath time isn't finished until towels are hung up, bath is wiped around and clothes are in the laundry basket. Etc.

Do not start the next task until you have fully completed the precious one.

I feel the same. I work part time three days a week on my business- it’s definitely more than a side hustle. One ds, a cleaner and an amazing helpful DH and I still struggle. I feel ashamed because lots of women have more to juggle on less resources but I often feel I am not coping.

aduce welcome