Hi everyone,
So over the last few years started hanging out with some fellow Mum friends but our parenting styles are very different and it always gets commented on that I'm 'too nice', yet they let their los be quite mean to my lo and only intervene when they feel my lo is at fault, however one of the LOs swears at my lo and hits her and excludes her from games. It's really starting to get my lo down.
They also want to meet up every single night. The children go upstairs to be left to their own devices and then the most vocal Mum leads a gossip fest where they criticise their exes, talk about what lingerie they're going to wear when they meet their new bfs etc. The loudest Mum says the children aren't allowed to come down unless it's to have dinner. The adults can eat what they want but the children aren't allowed dessert. The children get bored and argue. The Mums said I was 'annoying' because I decided to dance and sing with the children when they came down.
I recently left my dh, they were initially supportive and kindly offered me space to stay but due to various medical issues I have post major surgery, I had to go back home, though I am moving within days. They took umbridge at my being amicable with dh, who is also being amicable. They took umbridge at my lo being vegetarian and tried to make her eat meat. They keep telling me, rather forcefully, I better not go back. Whilst I won't be going back it's none of their business I feel. Anyway, last night they had a night without me or my lo being there, they had invited us over night before and then changed location and didn't tell me....one of the LO had told their Mum they didn't want my LO there after school in front of her. I dunno if I'm happy or pleased about being excluded, or want to continue this friendship. I feel like I'm being ungrateful to them but also like they're very toxic. One Mum regularly leaves her child with various friends in neighbourhood so she can go on trips abroad to visit her bf who lives far away.... gone for a week or more at a time. This is the Mum who demands all children stay upstairs and are not seen nor heard nor given dessert. AIBU or are they?