To think this is rude?

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Been out for dinner with a friend. We used to work in the same department but I’ve since changed jobs internally.

It’s a large global company so many different sectors and I’ve moved to a completely new sector.

Friend didn’t ask me once about my new job, whether I’m enjoying it, what are my new colleagues like etc. I would ask her if roles were reversed.

What did you talk about?

Probably just didn't want to talk about work on a night out.

What did you talk about?

If she asked about and expressed interest in other aspects of your life, maybe she just didn't think of it or wanted a work-free conversation. If it was all about her, you may have a point.

Would people really not ask a friend about their new job? Not even “are you enjoying it?”

Maybe IABU, I’d always ask a friend about something new and significant

It wouldn’t have been a conversation about work as such. She doesn’t know that sector or the people I work with.

Firm believer of leave work at work. I never talk about work unless it’s taking the kids out of something or someone and I would never ask about someone’s work. The vast majority of folk I know work because they need to not because they enjoy it or what they do. They go out to unwind not to talk about work. That’s the last thing on their mind.

I don't think I'd go as far as feeling it was 'rude' - bit odd that it didn't come up at all perhaps, but you could have mentioned it if you wanted. I doubt she meant anything by it OP, probably just trying to avoid talking about work on a night out.

Presumably you didn't both sit in silence over your meal? So you did have a conversation. She wasn't being rude. And if you really wanted to talk about it, you could have brought it up yourself.

At some point this morning she'll probably suddenly think, "Damn, I didn't ask eyes how her new job's going!" At least, she will if she's anything like me. I'm perfectly capable of meeting up with someone I care about for the first time in ages, having a long, involved, varied conversation with them including taking plenty of interest in their life and goings-on, and only realising at some random later point that I completely forgot to ask about [specific important life event currently or recently affecting them] that I'd meant to bring up.

Sometimes conversations just don't happen to go in any of the directions that might remind someone to ask a particular question.

Has she asked via text? Therefore it was covered before you met. If not, then yes I think I would be expecting a question around this.

Did you ask her how she's getting on (at work)?

I’d find it surprising but not rude if she asked you questions about other aspects of your life and it was a friendly balanced conversation

Did you ask her how she was finding work?

As long as she's a nice person who is generally interested in you and your life, this wouldn't bother me. I guess you were busy chatting about other subjects and work didn't really come up?

were you promoted?
is she jealous?