To tell my mum she can’t bring her dog in?

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RequiemForAcat · 14/10/2022 21:12

Complicated situation. My mum has an assistance dog because she’s disabled. I have a 5 month old cat and I let my mum stay over last night because she’s been having a bad time lately and needed the company, her dog has been barking at and chasing my kitten, he’s so terrified he’s peed on my daughters bed and pooped all over my bedroom, he’s genuinely terrified. My mums in a hotel near me tonight for the next week and wants to come over every day for dinner and company, but I can’t have the dog terrifying the kitten so I’m going to have to tell her she can’t come over. My mum gets deeply offended over things like this and I’m worried about explaining it to her tomorrow (I’m a people pleaser :( ) she’s going to be really annoyed so now I’m having bad anxiety over it.

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kingtamponthefurred · 14/10/2022 23:54

VampireCat · 14/10/2022 21:25

The disability and training of the dog matters- if she’s blind and it’s a proper guide dog it shouldn’t care about a cat. If it’s a questionably trained dog for a questionable medical issue (and it does happen, people have emotional support peacocks) it’s less clear cut if she could reasonably manage without it for a couple of hours.

Love the idea of an emotional support peacock....what would it actually do and how would it be trained?

Winterscomingagain · 14/10/2022 23:55

Dunnoburt · 14/10/2022 21:19

Why should the cat have to be removed from its safe space?? .......

Annoy a cat and bring strange doggy smells into a house and you tend to suffer for it. My housecat once systematically peed and pooed on every bed and carpet where the outdoor cats had lay after the bedroom windows had been left open.

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RequiemForAcat · 15/10/2022 09:13

I didn’t want to lock the kitten away as he’s still so young and loves to run around, but maybe I should have. When he was born he grew up with dogs as it was a close family friends cat who had the litter, my mum also has cats but outdoor ones, bit naive of me to think it’d be okay I guess. Maybe I can make a compromise of 2 hours at night for dinner and put him in one room and confine the dog to upstairs or something.

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VampireCat · 15/10/2022 10:54

kingtamponthefurred · 14/10/2022 23:54

Love the idea of an emotional support peacock....what would it actually do and how would it be trained?

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ZiriForEver · 15/10/2022 23:47

In general no-one should expect to bring poorly behaved dogs to anyone else's home.
Actually, no-one should automatically expect to bring any pet to anyone else's home, but ..

In general, service animals kind of don't count, as they aren't there in a role of pets, but in a role of personal support.

Very hard situation, as this service animal doesn't se to be fit for the job.

Would it be possible to agree for shorter visit with the dog staying in the garden?

AdoraBell · 15/10/2022 23:51

YANBU. It doesn’t seem like a service dog.

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