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Daughter offered great job but she's anxious, how can I help her

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NoOneCaresInRealLife · 14/10/2022 21:12

Hello, my dd has just completed her masters and has been offered and accepted a fantastic job. However, I can tell she is really anxious about the whole change.
She has been at home since start of covid completing her studies and has worked hard towards getting exactly what she has been offered but has told me she is scared, nervous and anxious about all the sudden change.
She starts in 10 days and more or less got everything in place - she's moving from very rural to city centre.
I'm looking for advice to give her to get her through this tough bit of change.
Anyone been through similar with their DC

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Arkestra · 14/10/2022 23:31

A few things that may help... my kids aren't going to start working for a while yet but I still remember how odd it felt to start working - I seriously considered dropping out rather than face it all when I was getting started.

  1. Everyone feels like they aren't up to it sometimes. I'm way past 40 (sadly) and work in a relatively senior role in a place where I am surrounded by other much younger people who are very good at what they do, generally way better than I was at their age. I regularly hear people confess to imposter syndrome. I confess to it myself. It's OK.

  2. Anticipation is worse than reality. She needs to get in there and actually start, as this means she can stop worrying about lots of imaginary scenarios. I always worry about new jobs. But once she gets in there she can actually do stuff.

  3. She's worth it. They offered her the job because they saw something in her.

  4. Don't waste the opportunity to ask questions. When you start, you get to ask what/why/etc and noone will judge you. She should take advantage of that. People enjoy dispensing wisdom. I still ask lots of daft questions now, but that's partly because I feel secure in displaying my ignorance due to being old enough not to care very much.

NoOneCaresInRealLife · 12/11/2022 17:23

Hi, thanks a million for your reply. She's 3 weeks into the job and loving it. I'm so proud of her.

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ZorbaTheHoarder · 12/11/2022 17:36

Glad everything's working out for your daughter, OP!

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