I find quite often that I can be speaking to people who I know, maybe work colleagues or school moms or even friends, and they will say something derogatory about something that they know I have/like/do/I’m interested in.
For example
I wouldn’t buy a caravan more
i’m 10 years old because they just give me the ick… my Caravan is 14 years old
everyone knows that audi drivers don’t know where the indicators are… I drive an Audi
if you have cats and you let them out then that is neglectful and you should be reported to the RSPCA… I have cats and let them out
I don’t really see the point in spending all the extra money on a detached house when you are stuck in a massive mortgage with a load of snobby neighbours… I own a detached house
I can’t think of anything worse than going on a city break… I’m going to Paris for my anniversary
I think these are all very valid and personal opinions to the people that hold them but I don’t understand why people feel the need to express those opinions at you when they know that you think and feel the opposite. I’m unsure what they are trying to achieve.
AIBU?
AIBU?
To think it is possible to have an expressed thought/opinion
trustyrustie · 14/10/2022 17:09
Am I being unreasonable?
22 votes. Final results.
POLLCreescendo · 14/10/2022 17:33
I have had these sort of comments too from people. I gave this a lot of thought and came to the conclusion that because I am a quiet, introverted person I am perceived as being too passive to push back on such comments.
And yes, these comments are rude. I have friends who like camping with their caravan (not my thing) but I would never make derogatory comments about their hobby. They like it. I can be happy for them. No need to get all superior with "Oh, how can you like such a thing..."
These comments are subtle put-downs. They are trying to make you doubt your own likes and preferences.
Now that I am older and wiser I push back on such comments. A hard stare and and a firm reply to the extend of "but I like it - you don't have to". This usually shuts them up. Don't be shy. Once you push back a couple of times, the comments will stop. People don't like being called out on their rudeness.
Best of luck to you!
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