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Aibu to take things from outside the clothes bank
Untamedfemale · 14/10/2022 11:43
Just what the title says my kids need clothes and there are always bags of them outside the clothes bank a lot of people seem to go through them and they often end up on the floor etc so do you think ibu to have a look through and take some.
Am I being unreasonable?
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Sistanotcista · 14/10/2022 12:13
spiderontheceiling · 14/10/2022 11:50
I donate to these "bins" as it is often more convenient that going to a charity shop (pedestrianised town centre) and I want to help someone in need. If you happen to be that person in need, then I'd be quite happy for you to take it.
Yes, agree with this. If the clothes end up with someone in need, that's the ultimate intention, so all good.
Untamedfemale · 14/10/2022 12:14
WishingWell5 · 14/10/2022 12:08
I think you can also post anonymously to Facebook groups (ie you can't see who is posting) which could be another way to ask the community for things you need. We need to all work together and help each other out in these difficult times!
I wouldn’t outright like to ask I would feel so ashamed
MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 14/10/2022 12:15
Twawmyarse · 14/10/2022 11:57
I always leave stuff outside charity shops as there’s nowhere to park and I can’t usually get there during opening hours - the thought of people taking that stuff doesn’t bother me at all - they must be pretty desperate to do so and at the end of the day I don’t want it anymore. What general area are u in op? And how old are the dc’s? I’d be happy to send u some stuff if I have anything age appropriate?
PLEASE don’t leave bags of stuff outside charity shops - we have to bin it
loottie · 14/10/2022 12:16
I have absolutely no problem with this.
You are doing the charity a favour as well, there's an abundance of dis guarded clothing and not enough volunteers to process it and not enough buyers to buy it.
Most of it ends up being recycled into mattresses etc as a waste product.
So please take it.
Untamedfemale · 14/10/2022 12:18
vivainsomnia · 14/10/2022 12:16
So there ends up with clothes scattered all over the ground whilst people shift through it, black bags ripped all over, foxes and cats coming to wee or poo in it.
Yeah, it's a great idea!
I always put things back properly I don’t leave it all on the floor
user53852098 · 14/10/2022 12:19
Twawmyarse · 14/10/2022 11:57
I always leave stuff outside charity shops as there’s nowhere to park and I can’t usually get there during opening hours - the thought of people taking that stuff doesn’t bother me at all - they must be pretty desperate to do so and at the end of the day I don’t want it anymore. What general area are u in op? And how old are the dc’s? I’d be happy to send u some stuff if I have anything age appropriate?
Please don't fly tip
Untamedfemale · 14/10/2022 12:19
user53852098 · 14/10/2022 12:17
Be careful OP if you are rummaging through the fly tipped clothes as it wouldn't be very nice if people thought you had done this
I have been named called quite abit whilst doing this tbf very embarrassing someone even started filming
Newbestmate · 14/10/2022 12:19
I don’t think anyone who donated clothes would mind at all, they just want their stuff to be used and escape landfill.
But the charities who pay a premium for that space and to collect and sort the clothes would see it as stealing.
I agree a post on your local Facebook group would be your best option. Something really neutral:
my children could use new (pyjamas, football boots, school shirts etc etc in age/ size… ) and I would find it hard to afford them right now. If anyone is having a clear out of any of these things I’d be very grateful if you passed them on.
ancientgran · 14/10/2022 12:20
Untamedfemale · 14/10/2022 11:49
If there are things all over the floor I don’t see the problem we are in in desperate times
If it was stuff I'd donated I'd be more than happy that you got it. I don't want anyone to be desperate but if they are desperate they are exactly the people I'd want to help.
I things improve for you.
Cordeliathecat · 14/10/2022 12:21
What are the ages of your kids? If they are slightly younger than my own I have huge bags of clothes that I’ve just cleared out from my kids wardrobes, most of them barely worn as both my kids seem to have gone through a massive growth spurt.
I’d be happy to post them to you instead of me taking them to my local clothes bank.
sheepandcaravan · 14/10/2022 12:23
I have the nightmare of organising our village clothing bank. It is a NIGHTMARE. The charity will NOT COLLECT a from ground. I spend my life picking up bags of soaking clothes and having to take them to the tip. Council will not collect, nobody will.
I have signs, I rant on fb, I'm close to telling them to take it away because it is a total mess. But I won't.
So YANBU, take it all!
High5InALowRide · 14/10/2022 12:23
TonksInPurple · 14/10/2022 11:53
YANBU the stuff on the floor gets binned anyway. So go for it, if you read all the writing it says not to leave stuff outside it.
This. They don't collect anything left outside in my experience, it gets binned from the 2 places near me.
Cheesybreadnom · 14/10/2022 12:23
Maybe not a popular opinion. But this is the reason they are being donated. If I put clothes in a charity drop off point, I don’t mind how they are used so long as they go to someone who needs them.
If your children are going to be cold or wet or going without something they need then yes you should take them, because your children need them.
Also if your donating £10 a month to charity but struggling yourself, you should keep that £10 for now. It sounds like you need that for your children and don’t feel guilty about it.
Sux2buthen · 14/10/2022 12:24
Twawmyarse · 14/10/2022 11:57
I always leave stuff outside charity shops as there’s nowhere to park and I can’t usually get there during opening hours - the thought of people taking that stuff doesn’t bother me at all - they must be pretty desperate to do so and at the end of the day I don’t want it anymore. What general area are u in op? And how old are the dc’s? I’d be happy to send u some stuff if I have anything age appropriate?
Our charity shops would call that fly tipping
c190 · 14/10/2022 12:25
Have a look on Facebook for your local "Buy nothing" group. On the one where I am, people are always offering outgrown kids clothes and toys amongst all sorts of other things. I have given away loads of stuff and also been given lots of stuff - it is a brilliant way of recycling perfectly good things that you no longer have need of that other people will use. You also have the option to ask (nicely!) if there is something in particular you need. Often I will have things that I haven't yet got around to listing and someone asks if anyone has one.
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