I separated from my partner in January and me and our 2 children (the youngest being a few months old) moved in with my parents. My ex refused to leave the house, and I can not afford anywhere on my own. I work 2 days a week (sat and sun as that's the only time I can get childcare) and get UC. My parents never asked for any money (if they had and had a serious conversation with me, I would of course have set up a direct debit) I've been trying to save for my own house for me and the children. I've been very grateful for them for giving me and my children a roof over our heads while allowing me to get some money behind me even if it's not much.
My mum had a troubled childhood and often gets drunk in secret on a night.
My daughter is only just 1, and my mum wanted to get a puppy. I said I wish she wouldn't as I know how hard it is with young children in the same house. Dad is 71 (mums only 50) and he hasn't the time or energy for one. She wanted one, so got one. Since getting it she's been away at a friends.
The puppy chewed the only pair of trainers I have for work while I was out, and it also bit my daughter face so it bled. I can't put my daughter on the floor as like a puppy does it just goes straight for her.
My ex came to pick up my daughter and noticed the scratch. He said something along the lines of it'll get a boot up it's arse if it does that again. In a lighthearted way. When he left mum said I can't believe he said that. I said well I kind of agree, my daughter comes first?
She then went on to say how it's her house and she should be able to get a dog, that it's more than dogs house than mine and my daughters.
I'm selfish, I haven't paid anything, I'm jealous of her. I said she didn't deserve my daughter - she said she doesn't care if she never saw her again.
Bear in mind - she never got my daughter anything for her first birthday. Nothing. Nor her christening. Never gives her any attention. If I'm cooking tea she will let her cry rather than pick her up to help me. Won't ever watch her so I can just nip to the shops. I mean she's my daughter and my responsibility and I love her dearly so if I have to struggle I do, but she just does not acknowledge her and it makes me so sad. She acts like her (and mine) presence is a burden.
She will let me struggle which is fine but will take her (rich) friends daughter to the dentist every week and basically do anything she wants as she has bipolar so needs support?
I'm a single mum with a young child but apparently I don't. I had to take her to the dentist when I went with my eldest, including having to leave her buggy downstairs and carry her up the stairs and she wouldn't come with me.
I have the option of either declaring myself homeless (been on council list for months with no luck), move in with someone I've been seeing which isn't an option, or move back in with my ex.
AIBU? Am i asking too much of her?
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northernlass1988 · 13/10/2022 22:18
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