My dad is an emotional abuser and a bully but the only parent I have.
A few months ago my daughter had an accident at his house and needed up in a&e. We left on fraught terms. He hasn’t been to see her or contacted me since other than a letter in the post saying he was sorry and he felt bad and would leave it up to me to get In touch.
I messaged to see we’d love to see him after our holiday and he didn’t reply until 3 weeks later, when he did reply he was only available to see me during the weekday (I work full time) and said he was busy every weekend. His texts became abusive towards saying my priorities are all wrong and in xyz so I stopped replying.
a few weeks later I’ve messaged to see if he would like to come and see my daughter at home so we can all move on. The accident was bad and every time we mention grandad she gets upset about the accident. My dad only wants to see me alone. I’ve said myself and my husband would like to see him together (mainly because I know if I see my dad he will be manipulating and horrible to me but would never when my husband is there) but husband is also pissed off my dad hasn’t been to see daughter. my dad is refusing to see me with anyone and wants to see me alone only. AIBU to not want to meet him alone?
Ps I actually don’t want to
(many many years of emotional and verbal abuse in the history)