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To cancel ds birthday sleepover

22 replies

Friarclose · 13/10/2022 13:05

It was ds's 12th b day on Tuesday, on Monday evening he started looking peaky and his glands were up so I sent him to bed early. On Tuesday he woke up unable to swallow with temp of 37.8, streaming nose, cough, headache and generally feeling awful. Did a covid test and it was negative. Obviously his birthday was a non event bless him, all plans cancelled.

I kept him off school Tuesday, Wednesday and today he's just started to feel better and is eating again, he'll be fine for school. On the other hand, I'm now coughing a lot and starting to feel pretty crap. Ds is having 2 friends to sleep over on Saturday night, in addition to dss12 and dss9 who will also be here. I know he'd be really upset if I cancelled but I'm really starting to feel bad. I do have dh here who will help but would you cancel in these circumstances? Also both ds friends mums know there's a bug in the house and are still happy for their ds's to come.

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PutYourShoesOnWereLate · 13/10/2022 13:06

In general, I would do anything in my power to not cancel a birthday celebration. Push on through, surely all they need from you is some pizza and cake?

Augend23 · 13/10/2022 13:06

I would tell the parents and if they're happy and you can cope go ahead. I wouldn't do it without telling them though.

Lovemelovemydoggie · 13/10/2022 13:08

I wouldn’t cancel as he’s already had a rubbish birthday. If he’s 12 they’ll probably not bother you too much?
Hope you feel better soon.

MrsMinted · 13/10/2022 13:14

Yeah I'd push on with it. At this age how much intervention do they need .... hardly any. In fact my DD prefers me to stay out of her sleepover biz. She can manage snacks and Netflix and that's mainlyall they need! You can dose up on Day&Night and retire to bed with any luck.

Tell your DS you feel ill and ask him to make sure his room is tidy the day before (remind him where the vacuum lives if he is anything like my 12 yo!)

Add your DH to a WhatsApp with the other parents and ask him to sort out logistics (arrival/departure time, sleepingbags and pillows etc). He can also sort pizza for them all.

Sorry you feel grotty though.

user1496146479 · 13/10/2022 13:14

I wouldn't cancel. I'd let DH be more hands on on the night and keep my distance from DS friends

Craftybodger · 13/10/2022 13:16

I wouldn’t cancel but I would postpone.

Workawayxx · 13/10/2022 13:23

I wouldn’t cancel, just order in pizza, sort plenty of snacks, get your DH to help out. Hopefully they won’t need much and will just keep each other occupied! I know my DS is easier with a friend as they go and do their own thing.

quietnightmare · 13/10/2022 13:26

Don't cancel just get in with it

Goldbar · 13/10/2022 13:42

I wouldn't cancel if the parents are happy to go ahead (and tbh they've probably all been trading illnesses at school already) but I'd put your DH in charge and just go to bed.

Surely your DH can handle four 12 year olds and a 9yo who'll just need pizza, other treats, movies and video games. Do you have anywhere nearby he could take them on Sat afternoon/Sunday morning? Mini-golf or something like that?

pollina · 13/10/2022 13:44

I’d definitely not be cancelling in these circumstances. just steer a bit clear of the kids as you can and open a window!

HereForAdvice95 · 13/10/2022 14:18

You’ve got DH there and they are old enough to not really need you to entertain them, you shouldn’t cancel it’s really not necessary, if you didn’t have another adult in the house and the kids were half that age than fair enough but I really don’t feel it’s fair to cancel on them now sorry OP.

PatientlyWaiting21 · 13/10/2022 14:33

I wouldn’t cancel, your husband is there!

tunnocksreturns2019 · 13/10/2022 14:35

You have DH so it’ll be fine. Hope you get well soon

Gymnopedie · 13/10/2022 15:02

Let it go ahead and see how you feel on the day as to how much you do. Tell DH there's a chance he'll be doing it all.

The DSCs are his so he shouldn't feel in any way aggrieved if he has to do all the caring for them for once. Is DS his as well? (Dons hard hat and waits for people to say it shouldn't matter, blended families, you married a man with children etc...)

muchprefersummer · 13/10/2022 15:13

I wouldn't cancel - DH is there to help. Get a take away (pizza, KFC) to minimise any fuss. Let them take control of Netflix and get on with it.

Original poster
Friarclose · 13/10/2022 17:23

Pretty unanimous!!

Yeah I'm not going to cancel it. I couldn't bear to see his little face!

He had such a rotten birthday bless him. I'm going to take him for a night away in London for a surprise when everyone is better too, just the two of us.

I'll just take a lot of lemsip!

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Starlightstarbright1 · 13/10/2022 17:28

I wouldn't cancel either.. enough birthdays have been missed past couple of years

pilates · 13/10/2022 17:32

Yes let DH do the majority of the work and hibernate in your room.

Mariposista · 13/10/2022 17:51

He has had an absolutely crap birthday - it's time to make up for it.
Dose up and crack on.

Hugasauras · 13/10/2022 17:53

I wouldn't cancel. I'd just let DH deal with it if I was properly unwell.

MzHz · 13/10/2022 17:56

What is this Dh is there to help… dh is there to take it all over, it’s not rocket science and all he has to do is feed them and leave ‘em to it.

@Friarclose take the day/night off, get yourself to bed and leave everything to h to do

whoruntheworldgirls · 13/10/2022 18:00

I'd let them come and you lock yourself in your room with drinks, snacks and tv/book.
Your husband can order/cook a pizza and sort out some snacks/treats

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