How to tackle this with partner

[Cornycob1]

Partner works 6 days a week and then does a volunteer activity on Sundays and one evening a week until late. Then when he his home he’s working some more. He’s working really hard and it’s going really well and will make a big change to our future. The volunteer job he loves and it’s his escape from work but I’m struggling to spend time with him. Do I just suck it up for the short term?

Does your partner know how you feel about your struggling to get some time with him? Sometimes, the just don’t realise unless you say something.

I’d be concerned you’re questioning how to tackle such a basic conversation with your partner

a simple ‘I don’t think we are getting enough time together with your work hours and voluntary role, can we have a think about how to carve out a bit more us time’ would do it

Is it short term or is he a workaholic?

Well I can tell him how I feel but what is he going to do leave the volunteer toll stop earning a wage. I couldn’t make him leave the volunteer roll as it’s a roll that really needs volunteers and he loves it

It’s short term like a year maybe year and a half max

he knows how I feel as he’s said he needs more time in the week for everything and did consider getting rid of the volunteering a while ago

If he's considered it, you can raise it.

Why would he have to leave

could he not just alternate weekends?

My dh works all the time. He has his own company, is building a house, takes on other jobs in the evenings. But what can I say? He's working hard for us - it won't be forever so I just remind myself how lucky we are to have such a great man.

Sucks tho when I want to do something nice at a weekend and he is in the yard grafting!!

You're doing all the donkey work yet you have no guarantee you'll benefit long term as you're not married. I'd be very cautious.