To think ex shouldn't give his baby DS’s middle name

[colazzo]

DS is nearly 2, me and ex gave him a common middle name, it doesn't have any sentimental meaning, we just liked the name.

Ex’s partner has recently given birth and they've given baby the same middle name as DS

Aibu to think he shouldn't have done this?

My dp has a son, middle name common but also his deceased father's 1st name, by coincidence my son from a previous relationship also has the same middle name. When we had a child together, we gave him the same middle names so all 3 boys would be 'connected' as half/step siblings.

Is your friend the OP's ex?

Same middle name, cute

Eldest Middle name, youngest first name very odd

My DD2 and dsd - half sisters, have the same middle name.

When I had DD1 I really wanted to use my late grandmas name as her middle name but ExH wouldn't let me. When I met DH he already had a DD with this middle name but was happy to use it for our DD together too.

All our kids are adults now, they're all close and nobody cares,

I dont know what dsd's mum thinks, but then I dont much care either.

She states they have the same middle name.

Irrespective of whether the babies have the same middle name or one has the same first name as his half db's middle name they have different first names. So it shouldn't be an issue. However there's less than two years between these dcs so there may be issues after OP and her ex.

Do you know it’s not got meaning for her. A name she always wanted to use. A father, grandfather etc?or are you just rushing to have a go?

Yeah I think you are being unreasonable, sorry OP. It's just a name and no one owns it, people have a right to name their children whatever they like.

I meant the baby has the same first name as DS’s middle name, if it was the same middle I wouldn't really care. When I was with ex the middle name was my favourite but he didn't really like it enough for a first name and would only agree to the name DS has now. I just don't think it's just on DS.

Seems I was right 🤷‍♀️

I think it’s weird. And a bit much. I wouldn’t like it.

He must have grown to like it more/forgotten it was DS’ name.

I think that’s so weird. I would be very annoyed by this I think. If my ex gave any new children one of our kids middle names I’d feel really sad I think, their middle names are my favourite of their names and I settled on more ‘normal’ first names with him.

Have you asked him why?

@MRSE20 exact same thing happened to me, my ex named his child the name we’d chosen as were considering TTC.
@colazzo yes I think it’s weird