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For expecting people standing at pelican crossings to have pressed the button?

67 replies

hopsalong · 12/10/2022 16:43

This keeps happening to me. Arrive at a pelican/ puffin crossing where two or three people (or more) are already waiting on my side. Stand behind them assuming (as surely always used to be the case!) that they have pressed the button and the lights are about to change. Look at my phone.

Time passes.

The lights never change. They seem unconcerned by this. They look at their phones.

Sometimes I say loudly 'oh dear me, did no one think to press the button' in a middle-aged way.
Usually I edge over and press it.

Is not touching the button a post-Covid thing?
And what happens to these people if a button jabber doesn't show up?!

OP posts:
BadAmbassador · 12/10/2022 17:07

Cross post @poppypetal

CherryLongIsland · 12/10/2022 17:08

BadAmbassador · 12/10/2022 17:06

There's one near my house that cancels itself after you press it...so you think you've pressed it but unknown to you the red light has gone out again. So the next person comes and presses it and looks at you like you're an idiot 😂

Yes, there's one like that near us! It's really annoying.

phishy · 12/10/2022 17:09

We noticed some crossing that had those sensor things in London the other day, so you had to hold your palm near but you didn't have to touch them.

DottieGinger · 12/10/2022 17:09

I get annoyed by this too! Particularly when they are stood right next to the button and you can’t really press it without getting in their personal space

janj2301 · 12/10/2022 17:10

I lean over, press the button and announce loudly "it works better when you press the button" I am a bit of a Karen. I also wait until the green man flashes even if there is no traffic, if there are children waiting to cross. My youngest used to shout at people who crossed on the red man, wonder where she got that from?

CrochetIsCool · 12/10/2022 17:10

Pressing the button on the one near us just lights up 'don't cross', it is linked with near by traffic lights. The one on holiday in Beaumaris though stops the traffic almost immediately when pressed.

viques · 12/10/2022 17:13

Sparklybees · 12/10/2022 17:01

I get irritated by the opposite. I'll have pressed the button, the light is on and yet people still walk up and insistently press it. Maybe there's some factor I don't know about that means the more it is pressed, the quicker the lights change!

Never seen it thr way described in OP but yes that would be annoying too!

I get that rage when people re press the bus bell. On London buses ( I don’t know about other places) a sign lights up, BUS STOPPING, so there is no need, repeat, no need to re ding the bell. It’s just as well I am not a bus driver, I would be sacked the first morning for customer abuse over overuse of my bell.

WatchoRulo · 12/10/2022 17:14

janj2301 · 12/10/2022 17:10

I lean over, press the button and announce loudly "it works better when you press the button" I am a bit of a Karen. I also wait until the green man flashes even if there is no traffic, if there are children waiting to cross. My youngest used to shout at people who crossed on the red man, wonder where she got that from?

The flashing green man indicates that you may continue crossing if you have started but you shouldn't wait for it before starting to cross -

www.ageas.co.uk/solved/road-safety/guide-to-pedestrian-crossings/

TheOrigRights · 12/10/2022 17:14

I think my default must be to assume the worst of people, so I will always press it again, regardless.

sandytooth · 12/10/2022 17:14

WatchoRulo · 12/10/2022 16:51

YABU - just look at the light and if it's not showing, press the button and bask in your superiority.

Yes!! I have at times said Don't worry I shall press the button!

Why they want to waste their time I don't know.

sandytooth · 12/10/2022 17:16

viques · 12/10/2022 17:13

I get that rage when people re press the bus bell. On London buses ( I don’t know about other places) a sign lights up, BUS STOPPING, so there is no need, repeat, no need to re ding the bell. It’s just as well I am not a bus driver, I would be sacked the first morning for customer abuse over overuse of my bell.

That's different, it makes a ding and pisses off the driver.

Worse still the people who lean on the button with their headphones in so are oblivious to their repeating digging.

TheOrigRights · 12/10/2022 17:16

I lean over, press the button and announce loudly "it works better when you press the button" I am a bit of a Karen.

I'd probably mutter 'fuck off' under my breath if you leaned over me to do that. A polite 'have you pressed the button' would be fine.

Karen is a horrible thing to call anyone, let alone yourself. Have some pride!

sandytooth · 12/10/2022 17:18

TheOrigRights · 12/10/2022 17:16

I lean over, press the button and announce loudly "it works better when you press the button" I am a bit of a Karen.

I'd probably mutter 'fuck off' under my breath if you leaned over me to do that. A polite 'have you pressed the button' would be fine.

Karen is a horrible thing to call anyone, let alone yourself. Have some pride!

Agreed. Unless their name is actually Karen please don't do the Karen thing.

MadameMinimes · 12/10/2022 17:20

A lot of them are placebo buttons.

I push the buttons at places where I don’t know the crossing well or where I know it has an impact but I would never press the button at the crossing just outside my work. The phases take forever and the button does absolutely nothing. It changes at set intervals regardless of whether anyone presses the button or not.

if someone leaned over me and told me “it works better when you push the button” I would just have a bit of an inward snigger. I do hours of gate duty every week stood by that crossing so know with absolute certainty that it’s a placebo and the button is only there to give people the illusion of control.

AnApparitionQuipped · 12/10/2022 17:21

I lean over, press the button and announce loudly "it works better when you press the button"

"Oh, I wasn't waiting to cross, I'm just loitering here."

NeverDropYourMooncup · 12/10/2022 17:21

MorrisZapp · 12/10/2022 17:03

Absolutely the norm round here, and it's a herd thing. If the first person doesn't push it, new arrivals won't either, a bit like the first answer on an AIBU thread.

I always just push it but it's beyond irritating if I have to say excuse me, or to lean across people.

Students are the absolute worst, and younger people in general. I think maybe pressing the button isn't seen as cool.

Same on the bus. Teenagers upstairs refuse to press the bell or stand up until the bus is almost at the stop, then they fling themselves wildly down the stairs and off. Anyone pressing or standing up in advance of the stop is Not Cool.

They'd find themselves miles away if they tried that in London - if it stops at all without a ding at least 100 yards from the stop, if you aren't at the door the instant it opens or in the constant stream leaving the bus, those doors are closing and the bus is leaving whether you like it or not.

tingalayo · 12/10/2022 17:21

The button at junctions doesn't do anything. It only does anything if there are zig zag markings leading up to the crossing.

Getoff · 12/10/2022 17:25

AnApparitionQuipped · 12/10/2022 17:00

In crossings at junctions, the button is a placebo. The lights change according to let different traffic streams through and it makes no difference whether you've pressed the button or not - it will go green at any point in the traffic flow when it's safe to cross.

At my closest junction, there is no pedestrian phase unless a button is pressed. The lights try to stay green for main road traffic 90% of the time, so you have a very long wait if you miss your chance. (Pedestrians can only cross when all directions of traffic are stopped, because when the main road traffic is stopped the cross-road traffic will be turning into the main road, so you can't cross then either.)

phishy · 12/10/2022 17:29

tingalayo · 12/10/2022 17:21

The button at junctions doesn't do anything. It only does anything if there are zig zag markings leading up to the crossing.

What a waste of buttons!

Offandonagain · 12/10/2022 17:33

It funny, this never happens when you have children in tow 🤣

AnApparitionQuipped · 12/10/2022 17:35

Offandonagain · 12/10/2022 17:33

It funny, this never happens when you have children in tow 🤣

I've been glared at a few times when I've pressed the button and a nearby child wanted to do it.

AnApparitionQuipped · 12/10/2022 17:36

Getoff · 12/10/2022 17:25

At my closest junction, there is no pedestrian phase unless a button is pressed. The lights try to stay green for main road traffic 90% of the time, so you have a very long wait if you miss your chance. (Pedestrians can only cross when all directions of traffic are stopped, because when the main road traffic is stopped the cross-road traffic will be turning into the main road, so you can't cross then either.)

The junction ones I know cycle anyway, it must be location-dependent.

johnd2 · 12/10/2022 17:42

BadAmbassador · 12/10/2022 17:06

There's one near my house that cancels itself after you press it...so you think you've pressed it but unknown to you the red light has gone out again. So the next person comes and presses it and looks at you like you're an idiot 😂

Report it to the council, they have a sensor to notice if the person waiting has left the crossing area. If that's not adjusted right it might think you've left when you are actually still there. The council will check and fix it.

I remember once I used to cycle past a crossing that never seemed to change for pedestrians until a minute or two passed, even when the traffic was light or stationary or it hadn't been pressed for ages. Very slow, but it suited me as a cyclist as I could nip past.
Fast forward a year and I move house so actually used the crossing, and I reported to the council. The next day they were looking at the equipment, and a couple of weeks later they replaced most of the gubbins, and after that it used to change instantly, except if it had only just changed back to green for the cars. Saved me a couple of minutes every day.

LondonJax · 12/10/2022 17:58

poppypetal · 12/10/2022 17:06

Some have a sensor so if you press the button but then stand back, the sensor can't detect you so it cancels the process because it 'thinks' there's no one there. I learnt this the hard way and probably people thought I hadn't pressed the button and was just standing there like a numpty when I actually had, but made the mistake of moving out of the the sensors reach! And yes, it took me a long while to figure this out 😳

Genius! That's why the crossing in our high street seems to 'turn off' when you know you'd press the button. I was standing there like a lemon in the rain last week, having pressed the button, wondering why the damn thing was taking so long. Looked at the button and the light had gone out. Now I know.

Goldbar · 12/10/2022 18:01

NightmareSlashDelightful · 12/10/2022 17:02

The most frustrating ones are where there’s a bunch of dimwits people already clustered round it, yet none of them have thought to push it, meaning if you want to push it you’ve got to barge through a wall of flesh to do so.

I've had this happen a few times. I send in my 4yo to push it. DC has no shame and is happy barging between people to reach the button. Gives me the chance to say loudly "Oh no one's pushed the button yet! No wonder the cars aren't stopping".

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