To think it’s odd for someone you considered a friend to randomly cut you off?

[Brightstar29]

I am part of a wider friendship group and we recently went on a weekend away together, otherwise do not see each other much as all live in different parts of country. One of the girls who I would have considered a friend but not a close friend after this weekend away randomly deleted me off socials but kept the others. From my perspective everything was fine up to and during the weekend away, and I’m really trying to pinpoint if I could have done or said anything to offend or upset but I really can’t.

As far as I’m aware there was nothing amiss and no one else noticed anything either. I’m quite introverted and don’t like conflict, and I’m not the sort of person to intentionally be rude etc. I worry that messaging individually could make whatever is going on worse and with us not having been that close whether it’s worth doing that, but I’m aware it might be a bit weird/awkward when the group does meet up again and also it’s made me feel a bit self-conscious. Anyone else has similar happen?

First of all I'm sorry you are going through this and that you don't know why.

Do you mean she has deleted you from several social media platforms and therefore cannot have been an accident?

@Vickstory79 yes about 3 different platforms

That's odd.
I'm sure you have gone through the weekend's events trying to think of everything that happened.

I'm not really sure you can do anything because if you have done something that she perceives as wrong she is unlikely to tell you.

Do you have a close friend within the group you could ask?

That would really bug me too! I'd ask one of the other friends if they'd noticed anything.

I’d assume you did or said something which she found offensive or hurtful without realising it. If you aren’t close friends then it doesn’t have to have been anything massive for somebody to just decide “nope, don’t particularly want to engage with this person any more” whereas a good friend may give you the benefit of the doubt or try to talk things through.

I’d wait until you next see her in person and then go from there. If she’s clearly standoffish or tries to avoid you then you can ask if you’ve accidentally done something to upset her.

Hmm, I'm not normally one to read too much in to things like this, as people use SM in different ways. But yeah this is odd, she has clearly decided you aren't friends any more or even acquaintances. I'd be hurt too.

@ComtesseDeSpair you’re right, to me it does seem an extreme reaction to delete off all socials considering I’ve no idea what I might have done so not like we had a big argument or anything, but when people aren’t that close I guess it doesn’t take much.

Im not the type of person to be intentionally rude or unkind and as I’ve said I’m quite introverted. We always got along well before and seemed to on this weekend away too.

That’s a really mean thing to do. If you are an introvert I wonder if she might have perceived that as stand offish? Not an excuse for her behaviour but possibly she thinks you don’t like her?

Clutching at straws! Can you ask a mutual friend what’s going on?

I'd have to ask her or one if the others. Seems really random.

This would baffle / upset me too
I think it is quite childish to just remove you from social media’s without at least trying to solve whatever has gone on
Part of me would be inclined to think “her loss” and move on from it but the other part of me would want to know why and what I’ve done wrong

I wouldn’t ask one of the others as I always like to try and keep other friends out of it just in case it causes rifts / conflict
I would probably just message this person and ask “Thank you for a great weekend away! It was nice seeing you. Just seen that you’ve removed me off some social media platforms, just wanting to check everything is OK?”