Am I being ridiculous?

[Dollardollarbillyall]

I've been on for maybe a year or two about my childs school and their poor communication/lack of everything. My child is in year 3, hardly does dress up days, charity days, fates, havent had one Christmas comcert etc. The poor communication is my biggest concern. I asked to join the PTA...there isnt one, hasnt been set up yet (asked almost a year ago).

The school is very large, and a Welsh school. I have bene told my childs Welsh is good but have noticed her struggling in her English writing and reading (they are also left handed).

After getting more and more fed up and seeing how other schools are, i have looked at moving their school. Its been discussed and we also viewed the school we very much like. Its closer, they have dojo to keep in touch, do various fun days, better drop off/collection times etc.

One issue is SIL and their child of the same age attend this school, theyd most likely be in the same class. We dont have contact with SIL and theyre quite hostile towards us whenever weve bumped into them. The children used to play together but contact was lost as they stopped replying to out messages and began to avoid us. I also believe estraged MIL does the school run time to time and theres alot bigger issues there regarding her allowed around children. (This issue would be discussed with the school before hand).

Anyway, I dont want any awkwardness or to intrude but everything would be perfect if it wasnt for this small blip. Im still in the process of thinking everything through as I was desperate for her to be in a Welsh school and theyre highly praised and sought for here.

This may be a ramble but I have no one else to discuss this with. This school wouod be our only option due to closeness and being better suited etc. Any adive or what you would do wouldd be great.

I missed part of the post out. Currently my childs class has onr teacher and no TAs. I feel they need the extra support but arent getting it in school and this wont be possible with 30+ children. We do plenty of reading at writing at home but would most likely see a massive imorovement if they had this in school.
Unless i arrange a meeting, we dont know what goes on once theyre in school, the school doesnt have Dojo and the teacher still doesnt know the parents at school drop off!

YANBU to move your child to the same school as her cousin, don’t be put off by SIL/MIL.

However, moving your child to a different school because of lack of dress up days and fetes seems a bit strange.

If your dd is happy and doing well at the school
then those aren’t really reasons to move her.

We moved our child from one that didn't do the extra days to one that did the days (this wasn't the reason for the move) but some families struggle to find the £1 every time and to spend on the outfits, in the next month we have a pink day and a yellow day, neither of which are in our existing wardrobes, that's before we get to Christmas jumpers. I understand why some schools don't touch them and it's about knowing their catchments.

Its not down to that obviously. But theyre on only child and we feel weve missed out on loads and they get sad when they see other schools doing more. I dont feel the school has a parent/school relationship and the children could have so much more. My child could have so much more support wise. Monday they were having issues with their log in for the laptop and becsuse the teacher was busy she had to go to another class and they couldnt help so were back and forth just for some help!