What is 'normal' teenage behaviour?

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I'm a teacher. I'm at the end of my rope with the behaviour of a lot of my students.

I've been threatened, intimidated, gaslighted, openly mocked, shouted at, lied to, disrespected.

I'm lying awake, again, sick with dread about what tomorrow might bring.

Part of me thinks I shouldn't have to put up with this, but maybe that's just normal behaviour of teenagers and maybe I'm just one of those whiny old people who moans about the behaviour of children 'these days'.

How much, realistically, should I expect to put up with? How much is just part and parcel of dealing with teenagers?

I'd be horrified, disappointed and surprised if DS (13) behaved like that towards a teacher. He's Y9 now, so started secondary in lockdown, I'm not sure if this is relevant or not, but there were definitely behaviour issues in Y7 & 8 with the entire year. Back chat, unfocused in lessons, some physical scuffles between the boys, name calling/bullying over social media between the girls. None of it acceptable and school said it was without doubt, the worst year they'd had, probably lockdown related. However, school came down on it like a ton of bricks, there were so many detentions handed out, a few suspensions, they took an absolute zero tolerance approach and were fully supported by parents. DS got involved in hiding another boys bag - received a detention from school and lost all his tech at home for a month over it.

In Y9, they do all seem to have calmed down a lot. DS can be a bit lippy at home still, but I've not heard of any rudeness towards teachers for a long time now. I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this OP, it sounds awful.

Are you in a middle school. How come ten yos with 13?

no not normal, l have two 15 and 16 and the worst they may do is be a bit grumpy and uncommunicative, but l have zero tolerance for rude behavior.

They know that they would be in serious trouble with serious consequences should they misbehave in school, but therin lies the problem far too many parents are far to lax on disciplining their offspring.

I do feel for you op.