To be worried about DH?

[RebeccaRose92]

Been together 5 years, married 2 & have A DS. When he gets back from work it’s quite late so we usually have dinner then chill out on the sofa and talk, like most couples. However during these talks for the past month or two he’s been telling me things that he’d told me a few days before, usually old stories like ‘when I was younger I did this etc’. Like we have the same conversation every few days. It’s too often for it to be a mistake. Should I bring it up to him? I don’t want it come across as rude or like I don’t want him to tell me things

Sounds distressing and frustrating OP. Hope you don't mind me asking a few questions to get perspective. How old is DH? Has there been any health issues lately, either MH or physical? Or any major life traumas? Has anybody else noticed the change? Is there anything else you can pinpoint in relation to his behaviour recently.

It's really hard to know what's causing this but of course, the stock is going to be to sit down and chat about if he's noticing any changes in his own health or behaviour and try persuade him to make an appt with GP. It could be stress or depression or it could be something more - either way it needs investigating

He is 34, he has depression and takes anti depressants but this isn’t a new thing, he does smoke cannabis but again this isn’t a new thing

Without trying to sound judgemental, long-term cannabis use can lead to mental health issues, depression, mood changes, memory problems and I'm not sure mixing them with antidepressants is an ideal situation.

This a problem for GP, not MN, I'm afraid

@catell01 I totally agree with you. I only smoked it when I was a teen for about a month personally. Just not sure how to approach it and suggest him going to GP

By gently but honestly suggesting that it's the best move for whole family (specially DC). Try make him see how worried you are without being judgemental. He may not agree straightaway. A little left field, bit maybe start keeping a diary of unusual behaviour, repeated conversations etc and show him if and when he denies anything out of the ordinary. Also, this way you can document how quickly it might deteriorate

I do this when I'm exhausted. Exhaustion greatly affects memory, he sounds like he's just burnt out

I would try and mention it in a non-judgemental way and say that you’re concerned about him. See if he is willing to get medically checked out, especially of he has any history of a head injury.