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To be concerned about this new friendship?

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haisla · 11/10/2022 11:05

DD16, has been dating a girl for a few months, all fine with the girl but her best friend doesn't seem to be the best influence, he is known to fight and be not a nice person at times, he smokes weed (as does the gf) albeit not often. DD's attitude has started changing since being friends with him. On Thursday, the gf had covid but DD went out with him and a few of his friends and didn't get home until 11pm, whereas when she's got college the next day we say 9. This boy is older and regularly buys them all cigarettes and alcohol, although I don't think DD has smoked.

Aibu to be concerned about this new friendship?

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haisla · 11/10/2022 11:23

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donttellmehesalive · 11/10/2022 11:31

I think most people would be concerned if their 16yo dd suddenly started behaving differently and socialising with people who smoked, took drugs and bought alcohol for underage kids.

Having said that - I had friends who smoked cigarettes and weed, and drank alcohol, but I didn't. I also don't think 11pm is particularly late for a 16yo.

For me, it is something to keep an eye on rather than something to panic about, but keep the lines of communication open because, honestly, there comes a point when there's very little you can do about these things except hope that they value your opinion enough to listen.

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