Refusing to take a pregnancy test after embryo transfer

[Becomingmom]

I just don’t see the point. I either am or I’m not and I’ve scheduled an ultrasound with my gyno 4 weeks after transfer. I’m now 8dp5dt, both embryos put in, 5 day hatching blastocysts. I’m sick of over analysing and I’ll just wait this one out.

thanks for your luck everyone, I think I’ll probably schedule a beta and stay away from hpt as I feel like I would want to know if something would threaten my health, I already have two little chickens of 6 and 8 and that comes first. So in regards to not having an ectopic I’ve been convinced.

Update:

clearblue is negative, 3 days before beta but I assume I’m out. Going to ask tomorrow if I can come off the meds or have to wait till beta day and do bloods

I personally think early pregnancy tests cause more heartbreak than any advantages. With my first I wait until I was 2 weeks late before testing with my second I never actually took a test

I'm in Cyprus right now (just on holiday), sending a good luck hug

YABU

the clinic asks for testing for a reason, and that will be down to medication requirements and also ongoing counselling needs.

if it’s not positive you won’t also get a scan

You’re being ridiculous

I will because I’m paying for it and when I’m paying for my treatment I am a customer paying for a service. Sykes, because the scan was booked the day of the embryo transfer.

I think do what’s right for you. I tested every day, so I that could see that trigger shot was out of my system and knew that any positive wasn’t a false positive, and because doing it first thing meant I could get the best result and not forget, or analyse of or fret over whether I should/would/could or not for the rest of the day. But that was just what worked for me.

Check with the clinic, explain it’s stressful for you and if they have a clinical reason and whether a thing with change, though. And good luck.

Try a bit of sensitivity. Read the room @OnlyHams, come on.

Sorry to hear what you're going through OP. I would suggest continuing on the meds until you at least have a blood test to be sure.

Long history here too of IVF and immunosuppressants but worked for us in the end and now have a gorgeous 4 month old.

Much love x

@OnlyHams it’s not ‘ridiculous’ at all - it’s the only control left and the only way of protecting yourself after the most brutal journey. It’s not that easy to do a test, see it’s negative and just crack on with your day. A bit of sensitivity in the language you’re using would help.

@Becomingmom sorry it’s not looking good so far. Give yourself time before figuring out the next steps and look after yourself.

Our beta blood was cancelled due to a shortage of blood collection bottles in the NHS. We were given a urine test instead. I pee'd in a pot, left it in the bathroom and went back to bed. Asked DP to go do the test for me as I couldn't face the sitting staring at the test.

IVF is brutal. I wish you all the best with your treatment and hope things work out x

Thank you for all your encouragement kind words everyone. To be honest I’m at the point where I’d like I just get past it and get on with life. Clinic says it’s not possible to show positive or get pregnancy signs until the 15th so test then, however I’m the kind of person that likes to throw myself into something else, so I just kind of want to confirm negative and rejoin my rugby team, and get on with bringing my 6 and 8 year old daughters up to show standard for their ponies next summer. I’m don’t with this for now.

IVF is different though.

Final update:

definitely a failed cycle. I’m going to tack up my horse and my 8 year olds pony and we’re going hacking. And as it goes I’m off to look at a Welsh section A for my 6 year old so that the three of us can go together and I’m just going to enjoy the life I’ve built. I’m done having another child.

💐to you. Be kind to yourself.

@Becomingmom

So sorry to hear this. Such a hard road, and a difficult decision to make.

I totally get the feeling that you’re done though. It’s too hard to just keep on keeping on.

@Becomingmom

i get it. The “done” bit. We decided there was only so much miscarriage, blood and tears we wanted to go through, so we stuck at our one DC, and I bought more ponies too! For me, and I know this wouldn’t help some, I looked for the silver linings. Just one child makes the finances and time so much easier, so I have the capacity to have her out jumping, team chasing as much as I like and still manage my own horses.

best wishes to you all.

I love this, this is exactly what I have done. The girls are doing BHS pony stars and then challenges which I didn’t know equates to the stage 1 qualification of becoming a BHS instructor. Not bad for 6 and 8. We bought my youngest a pony so they have one each and we are out for our first show December 11th. You are 100% on the finances too as equine hobbies are expensive but worth it for the kids. I have my own but he’s my happy hacker. Congratulations on getting out to the shows with your own DC x