Is 7 years too much if a age gap

[Usernamestillloading]

In marriage? We have been married for more than 10 years and we have a 7 year age gap. It’s not a great partnership but plodding along. However lately I’ve noticed that husband and I are on completely different mindsets in almost everything- he is talking about plans after retirement but I’ve just turned 41 and it seems not a topic I want to discuss yet.. he is also very tetchy about self respect etc and I feel like living a life of taking one self far too seriously, which I find tiring.
i s as Leo don’t enjoy talking to him anymore as it’s a constant repeat of the same thing…
is this due to the age difference? Or is the dat we don’t really work coming to light??

9 year age gap here and married over 35 years. Not a problem for us but I think, once one is a proper adult, age is just a number anyway and people vary so much as to how old they are for their age if you see what I mean.

7yrs and 8mos here.
I don’t mind the retirement talks anytime after 30. It’s always good to plan ahead and discuss ideas so you can be on the same page. Retirement doesn’t just happen when you get to the age, you have to plan for it.

No, seven years is a pretty small age gap IMO. Any less than five years is basically 'the same age'.