To end this “friendship”

[Blueysmum12]

Sorry I need to rant because I have no one else.

i have a friend I met 6 years ago at postnatal group. We used to do alot together etc but always me treating her etc.

we fell out about 3 years ago when she went back work and kind of just ditched me to hang out with her work mates. Oh well.

fast forward to when our children started school we started talking again. Her work friends have now moved on and she’s changed jobs.

my dad died a year ago and she’s never bothered asking about me. Every single phone call is her moaning about her life, her dating life, how “alone” she is and she has no one (she has a mum, dad, siblings etc). Both my parents are dead. I have my husband and Dc and that’s it.

every week she’s On a different date and I’m sick of hearing how she thinks he’s special and then they meet and nope. How she only goes on them for a free meal etc.

today im having a crappy day. It’s the anniversary of my dads funeral. I feel like poo.
she FaceTimes me to tell me she’s got a bug and she didn’t eat a thing yesterday, how she went on a date Friday and it was crap and to tell me how depressed she is but won’t take meds bevause she hates the side affects. I have BPD and depression so I’m fully sympathetic but I’m fed up of it being one sided. I’m sick of feeling like a mug. I don’t know why I’m so kind and pay for things all the time either, cinema, meals out etc. she’s never once treated me lol.

uh I’m sorry for moaning.

Moan away.
It sounds like she brings nothing positive to your life at all.
I'd ditch her too.

Losing a parent is horrific. I'm sorry you're struggling. Your friend isn't a friend. she's a using, self centred twat. She has already shown you who she is with her past behaviour.

You have a couple of options, keep being her friend, do a slow fade or go nuclear and fall out with her.

I'm all for a slow fade, less messy.

Sorry but you’re being a mug. She is a parasite, using you for free money and therapy.

Block her today.

Yep block the user and don't give it a second thought, she'll ditch you again at some point anyway when something "better" comes along by the sounds of her.

Stop thinking of her as a friend and put her in the aquaintence box. Slow fade, don't answer texts so quickly, be unavailable.

Sorry about your Dad. Could I gently suggest listening to Griefcast. It always makes me feel better.

I have a friend who is similar. She's only interested in talking about herself. Last year I fell over while heavily pregnant. We were texting at the time so I mentioned it. She replied within seconds... but totally ignored what I said. She didn't ask if I was okay. It was just never acknowledged.

When I was made redundant, every conversation was about her new job.

I'm going through some shit at the moment and I've not told her because she will make it about her.

I'm sorry for your loss, OP. Don't waste your time with shit friends.

Would it help you to stop thinking of yourself as kind for paying for her and instead realise that you are, for all intents and purposes, paying her to be your friend.

If you are going to do that, at least employ someone who pretends to give a shit about you.

Ditch her. You sound like a lovely person and can make much nicer friends.
Sorry for the loss of your father, anniversaries are such hard times. Be kind to yourself 🌼

Very sorry about your dad.
Tell her to fuck off and move on 😁

C' ya