To ban my kids from coming in my room before 10am on the weekends?

[Dogghee]

For context my youngest is 11.

Up every morning at 6.30am and just want a lie in on weekends, but any disruption and I'm wide awake and cannot get back to sleep. Just can't.

Every weekend my 11 or 14 year old wake up go toilet, watch TV but they always come in my room just to say hi after they go toilet 😂 I know it's cute but then I'm wide awake whilst they either go back to sleep or downstairs.

WIBU to ask them to please not come in unless it's important. They literally just come in to say good morning at 7/8am then I don't see them again till 11am when they come out of their room.

Even a sleep till 9am would be nice!

But I feel bad. Especially with DS as he just comes into give me a kiss or say hello.

Compromise with 9 am then.

Am slightly baffed by the people suggesting that your future relationship and closeness with your kids depends on you letting them wake you up whenever they like at the weekend! Absolutely fine to tell them that you love a cuddle, but it will be after 10am. And I would actually say that your future closeness (and their future relationships with other people) depend on them empathising with other people's needs. Which I'm sure they will in this case as they sound lovely!

10am is a bit decadent. Could you meet in the middle and say 9am?

That being said, these years don't last forever.

Oh dear I'm so jealous, my DS10 is up by 6.30 at the latest every day. I'm the same as op, when I'm awake that's it.

Have a chat with them op. I'm sure it'll be fine and you'll start your day happier.

Close your door and stick a note on it. “ Please come and wake me at 9.30 with a cup of tea, but not before. Thank you. I love you”

Do it the night before, obvs

I have one left who still comes in, once it is gone it is gone, it isn't the same once you put a time on it.

But at the age of your children it is a personal preference, not a 'good parenting' decision.

Agree.

Their preferences aren't paramount at all times; it's a disservice to let them operate on that premise. Impulse control and consideration for others are important skills to cultivate.

I must give that a try, if it stops my 8yo waking us up at 5am on the weekend! 😁😂

Ah, my DH says this. He hates ds9 waking us up at anytime on the weekends!
I'm afraid I love him coming for cuddles tho he knows not until after 7!
I think he'll stop doing it soon so I'm enjoying the cuddles while it lasts!
We've compromised now in that D's comes in for a cuddle then I get up with him and we go down for a cuppa which Ds makes.
DH snores on and I get some lovely one on one time watching movies with ds! Sometimes I nap during movies! 😁

Who are you to tell another adult how long their lie-in should be? I’m sure an 11 and 14 year old are quite capable of coping without mummy for a few hours in the morning.

They will leave home one day and you will miss this.

I absolutely would say something. Don't be a martyr to it - they're perfectly able to understand that other people have different needs at that age and rightly so.

Lolz to the pp saying 'you'll miss it when they're gone' - erm nope!!!

We were never allowed in my parents room, ever! People might this sounds harsh but if you wanted to ask something you had to knock and wait, sometimes mum would bring us in her bed if we were ill and dad was working away but not even at Christmas could we just walk into their room, we all knew we weren't allowed, we entertained ourselves and it was fine.