When your crazy but y'all not

[Pestoisthebesto]

Ok so I'm doing this as an aibu? Because I'm watching this is us! almost perfect family, I grew up with people thinking we were perfect but. I was 10 years younger, my mom attempted suicide twice before I was 18 plus my dad had 2 major heart surgeries in this time, my bro and sis parade around like they're god's that were there during all this but they weren't and I get the pain is different for everyone but at one point I was 17 looking after my sister's 5 yr old whom I now can't contact cos of family shit, and I feel pfffffttt;!!

I bet you have lots of friends and are really popular as you sound WONDERFUL.

Sorry this is something I've dealt with for sometime, ok so a breakdown would be me being 7 and being told my dad had severe damage to his heart, him having a triple bypass and then. Within the same year my mom tried to kill herself, I remember minimal from this time, I remember being 17 when it happened again and looking after my 5 yr old nephew, and also remember being the black sheep of the family for decade. Also my mom is perfectly fine now and managed to ruin my wedding memories

Perhaps it's time to take a step back from family and focus on friends instead?

You've obviously had a very difficult and traumatic childhood. Have you had any therapy? It might be worth investigating.

However I'm afraid I can't understand your post even after reading it several times. What question do you want people to answer?

Calm down! You aren't making sense.

Why did people think your family were perfect? Did they not know about your moms struggles?

It'll be a bit awkward if she's American...

From the title are doesn’t sound like an American. But someone trying to be. She doesn’t even know how to use “y’all”.

But you never know…I live in the US and am married to an American. Never heard anyone here not know how to use y’all.

It's still good advice, even for Americans.

Have you heard of cptsd? There are some good forums if you want to offload and relate to other people going through the same thing (as well as here of course, just with more sensitivity and understanding)

Hope you're ok 💗

Some right little charmers up thread. Who pissed in your cornflakes?

Looking at previous threads with talk of “neighbours”, a garden, a child in Year 1 and a child going into reception…she’s as British as they come.

@Revolvingwhore

Please try to ignore the horrible people on this thread. It can be really hard when you watch a TV program that makes you reflect on your own childhood. Lots of people four This is Us to be very emotional.

I'm sorry you had to deal with such big things through your childhood. Have you ever had the opportunity to talk to a therapist about it?

Have you ever come across a book called. They fuck you up?

All I can say is that it's shit and it sucks. Especially when other people expect you to be or act a certain way because you had such a "perfect" life. It's all smoke and mirrors and keeping up the act is exhausting. Revealing it all and allowing yourself to feel how you feel, feels like failure.

I would suggest seeking some professional help to talk all of this through .