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I'm going to have to resign from this job aren't I?

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JustFeckIt · 08/10/2022 17:57

Really pissed off about it but don't think I can do anything about it!

Started a part time job last year, seemed perfect - remote so fitted in with my caring responsibilities, great hours, interesting content and lovely team..,., except my full time counterpart.

She put me on edge from the start. Quite a challenging personality - very straight talking, quite brash, slapdash, type of person. On my first day, she told me her best friend had applied for my job and she didn't know why she didn't get it. I just said 'Oh'. It didn't bode well.

Anyway she'd started in her role a few months before me and had worked in the same sector with same systems for some years prior but seemed to find it hard to pick up the training. I picked it up very quickly and was trained on a lot of tasks before her. So the most complex and time consuming bits of work became my job although we were both supposed to be doing them.

I noticed that she didn't seem to do a lot and the work load was increasing, I was finding it hard to keep up but she always had excuses as to why she wasn't helping on the complex stuff and if I asked her to do any she was constantly calling me to go though it with her, spending ages on the phone so I was getting more behind.

I have literally been doing a full time job in 24 hours a week.

She then said she wanted to go part time so would I swop with her. I said No as I don't want to work full time. I found out recently she's asked her manager if I could work more hours so she could drop a day. Manager said to discuss with me. I was bloody furious and said No again. Feel like she's trying to pressure me. She took it as a full time job not me!

The workload has massively increased over the last few months by around 50%. There is a specific reason for this but can't say why as outing. There have been comments from above that work is not completed to timescale despite knowing this.

Colleague took a whole day the other day to do something that should have taken no more than a few hours. Considering she's full time and I'm part time she should be doing the bulk of the work but loads of stuff is not getting done!

I raised the issue with management two months ago and they said they'd discuss but no one came back to me. They acknowledged that I am doing more than I should though.

Colleague has health issues and suffered a very traumatic loss some years ago (which she told me all the details of early on) so I have been loathe to call her out to her face on what seems like deliberately taking the piss. Management are similarly sympathetic so I don't think they'll do anything.

It is massively stressful and draining so I dread logging in now. i am literally stuck in my chair for hours unable to take a break as so busy and trying to keep up. It's not great pay so definitely not worth it but I could overlook that for being full remote. I was working over my hours but have stopped that now.

I am loathe to walk as I need to be remote due to children with disabilities. and it is very flexible. I can't find any other fully remote jobs and have been looking for a while.

This was my first job after being a SAHM for many years and I can't believe the shit luck of having her to work with! We have other teams set up the same as ours in other areas and they all work together well.

OP posts:
Paq · 09/10/2022 07:47

Your updates make it clearer why you want to resign. What a nightmare!

Write it all down, every detail:

You are more productive
You are the only person who can be relied on to do complex tasks
You have to spend time correcting colleague's work
Your colleague is interrupting you multiple times a day to ask questions she should know the answer to
Work is left undone when you are on leave
Your manager is unwilling to address your overwork
Your colleague is sarcastic about your part time hours
Your colleague asked you to go full time
Your colleague and manager expects you to give your colleague lifts, meaning you have to wait around at the end of your working day

Seems enough for a grievance.

EL8888 · 09/10/2022 12:00

I think some people get jealous of people who do part time. It appears as if they forget that part timers typically get paid less as it’s pro rata’d for how many hours they do

LookItsMeAgain · 09/10/2022 15:55

namechange3394 · 08/10/2022 21:34

You are not doing yourself any favours by rushing and denying yourself breaks to get through all the work. You are masking the problem and it's meaning your manager doesn't have to do anything about it.

Do your hours, don't worry about how much gets done. That's your managers problem, not yours. If 600 bits of work have come in, you've done 200 in your PT hours, she's done 100 in FT hours - that tells them 1) she's crap and 2) they clearly need more staff on these tasks. But they can't be arsed to look at the numbers at the moment cos you're beavering away sorting everything out. Stop doing that - you're making it more difficult for them to recognise and solve the problem.

As for giving her lifts, just say no. That doesn't work for you. Where is your backbone?

This is very good advice. Very good advice.

Blendiful · 09/10/2022 16:01

JustFeckIt · 08/10/2022 17:57

Really pissed off about it but don't think I can do anything about it!

Started a part time job last year, seemed perfect - remote so fitted in with my caring responsibilities, great hours, interesting content and lovely team..,., except my full time counterpart.

She put me on edge from the start. Quite a challenging personality - very straight talking, quite brash, slapdash, type of person. On my first day, she told me her best friend had applied for my job and she didn't know why she didn't get it. I just said 'Oh'. It didn't bode well.

Anyway she'd started in her role a few months before me and had worked in the same sector with same systems for some years prior but seemed to find it hard to pick up the training. I picked it up very quickly and was trained on a lot of tasks before her. So the most complex and time consuming bits of work became my job although we were both supposed to be doing them.

I noticed that she didn't seem to do a lot and the work load was increasing, I was finding it hard to keep up but she always had excuses as to why she wasn't helping on the complex stuff and if I asked her to do any she was constantly calling me to go though it with her, spending ages on the phone so I was getting more behind.

I have literally been doing a full time job in 24 hours a week.

She then said she wanted to go part time so would I swop with her. I said No as I don't want to work full time. I found out recently she's asked her manager if I could work more hours so she could drop a day. Manager said to discuss with me. I was bloody furious and said No again. Feel like she's trying to pressure me. She took it as a full time job not me!

The workload has massively increased over the last few months by around 50%. There is a specific reason for this but can't say why as outing. There have been comments from above that work is not completed to timescale despite knowing this.

Colleague took a whole day the other day to do something that should have taken no more than a few hours. Considering she's full time and I'm part time she should be doing the bulk of the work but loads of stuff is not getting done!

I raised the issue with management two months ago and they said they'd discuss but no one came back to me. They acknowledged that I am doing more than I should though.

Colleague has health issues and suffered a very traumatic loss some years ago (which she told me all the details of early on) so I have been loathe to call her out to her face on what seems like deliberately taking the piss. Management are similarly sympathetic so I don't think they'll do anything.

It is massively stressful and draining so I dread logging in now. i am literally stuck in my chair for hours unable to take a break as so busy and trying to keep up. It's not great pay so definitely not worth it but I could overlook that for being full remote. I was working over my hours but have stopped that now.

I am loathe to walk as I need to be remote due to children with disabilities. and it is very flexible. I can't find any other fully remote jobs and have been looking for a while.

This was my first job after being a SAHM for many years and I can't believe the shit luck of having her to work with! We have other teams set up the same as ours in other areas and they all work together well.

Sounds like you are working with an ex colleague of mine!

Also suffered a traumatic loss, but their work was not up to standard before this happened. Never ever pulled their weight which got way worse after the loss (understandable for some time, but also, not new, and it was a job where if you can't do the work you really shouldn't be in the role as dangerous)

Management never addressed it for fear of backlash due to issues they had. Eventually they were asked to leave, but lots of food staff had gone by that point as they had had enough

MummytoCSJH · 09/10/2022 16:17

JustFeckIt · 09/10/2022 00:43

I actually only work 4 days a week and she was making comments about how lucky I was and she'd like a day off in the week too (she took a full time bloody job!).

Then she asked me to change my day off to another day (which I'd agreed with my manager before I'd started) for no real business reason. I said No it suits me and was agreed before I started. Then started saying she wanted to go part time as she doesn't need to work full time (why take a full time job then?). She seems to be jealous that I'm part time - err I get paid more than a third less than she does. Just nuts!

This is the first part time job I've ever had as always worked full time before. Is this normal that full timers don't like part timers working part time?

I think it is normal, with no consideration for the fact you get paid less accordingly. I work 3 days a week alongside 2 ft colleagues, my 2 days are constantly referred to as ‘extra days off’ and I’ve even been asked ‘you wouldn’t mind staying a bit later on Friday since you’re not actually here all week, would you?’ Yes I bloody would, once I’ve done my hours that’s it I’m done.

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