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Overwhelmed by work email. AIBU to ask for your tips and tricks to deal with it?

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anotheronenow · 08/10/2022 17:38

I have a big job. I am in the second year of a promotion to department head. One DC at Uni, one DC at high school. DP in similar but lower stress position (not a head). Get about 100-150 emails every day (some are replies to replies) and I am going under. Can't get them all replied to because I spend all day putting out the fires. The lower priority ones then turn into fires.

Am in first year of menopause so can't remember things the way I used to be able to. I've worked for 25+ years to get where I am, and I am at the top of my game in other ways (research etc), but the lack of ability to deal with email is causing me to to regret my choices. Everything else about my job is great, and I am enjoying the variety, the ability to fix problems, set up systems to help people etc. I've learned so much from wise mumsenetters, how to make a chicken last 3 days, how to choose "naice" ham, how to ask for a diagram if I see the words "parking thread" how to sell my house, get a CCJ against my roofer, so AIBU to ask you how the f**K you deal with your emails so you don't go under?

Emails are e, e.g. from colleagues wanting stuff or questions answered, higher up admins telling me to do stuff I can't do so need to explain, clients needing answers yesterday, lower down admins needing approvals, all coming into same place as colleagues outside organisation who I am collaborating on research with, and responses to my own emails asking people to do stuff usually they want clarification or more guidance and I just don't have time...

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iwanttobreakfree1234 · 09/10/2022 08:39

Forgot my final tip - put by deadline in the subject line and ask your team to do the same

EmiliaAirheart · 09/10/2022 09:34

You also need to cut down on the time it takes to reply to an email. Use autocorrect, quick parts and templates (I do sentences and paragraphs through autocorrect, any multiple paragraphs in either quickparts or templates). There must be basic structures and sentences you use constantly that would work for this.

It could be as simple as “qri” (which mentally you know stands for quarterly report input) to expand into “Hi team, can you please send me the quarterly report figures by COB tomorrow”.

You can also use XXXX for the part that changed often (eg maybe it’s not a quarterly report every time, or maybe the deadline changes). I like XXXX because it’s always noticeable enough not to miss when you’re filling the gaps in.

EmiliaAirheart · 09/10/2022 09:37

Obviously that’s a simple example and the actual content varies between industries. I’m a lawyer and there are lots of things I say frequently and adapt slightly, so autocorrect shorthand helps me get my ideas out faster and my fingers can almost keep pace with my brain!

motherofcatsandbears · 09/10/2022 10:12

Have you got an assistant who can help you?
Can you give someone else delegate access to your email? They can then deal with the less pressing mail and leave the more important things to you?

inheritanceshiteagain · 09/10/2022 10:14

Go onto HRT if you find yourself in a bit of brain fog and delegate the emails to other people?

Bouledeneige · 09/10/2022 10:39

I agree with the question about whether you have an assistant. I have a PA who reviews my emails and colour codes urgent v non urgent emails and deals with the calendar/admin type stuff.

Otherwise you need to speak to your manager - if you're only answering emails all day (or not in meetings) then you don't have time for thinking and doing actual projects of work. So it means a number of things. 1) you're insufficiently resourced and need more of a team around you to delegate to and portion out the work. Without additional resource you can't prioritise more important work objectives 2) your line manager needs to help you prioritise what's most important - what to prioritise, delegate or stop doing 3) sone people should be taking more responsibility in their own roles and not keep escalating or diverting them to you 4) the culture of the place is to send too many emails.

I've had staff prioritise doing emails who never then get on with the more important projects and that means they ultimately didn't succeed in their role. So better to avoid that. Explain your situation with your boss, set out your priorities and seek advice about what should be delegated to others.

Jedsnewstar · 09/10/2022 10:43

I second the set email time. Power though, have a little note pad next to you to write a little to do list helps.

babbi · 09/10/2022 10:47

ReenyRednek · 08/10/2022 18:01

  1. Unless they're priority (e.g. from your boss) don't reply to emails until the end of the day. By then half of the problems/queries will have been resolved.
  2. If whatever the sender wants is not part of your job, don't do it and don't reply!
  3. Shut off the alerts so you are not distracted by constant pings.
  4. If you're that high up the ladder you must have a PA or assistant that can screen the mails, and/or that you can delegate some of the minor tasks to?
  5. Reply to them by phone if it's faster to explain something rather than writing out instructions.
  6. Pass the buck whenever possible!

Excellent advice and that’s where I have now gotten to .

with no exaggeration I received over 200 emails in 1 hour on Friday morning 😩🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

I now read those from my boss and 2 others only as they arrive … the rest I leave until the end of the day and end up deleting lots in irrelevant ( to me ) threads …

our company culture is to copy everyone in everything to cover ones own ass … that’s not something I can change …

so I ignore all until later in order that I can get lots done …
should anything be urgent the sender will call me after a period of no response

Ccoffee · 09/10/2022 10:54

I'm an EA. I get my own 100+ emails a day, my boss gets 200+.

I use the same system for both of us. Anything dealt with / read but doesn't need actioning / doesn't need reading, goes in a 'Filed' folder.

Anything non-urgent eg journal articles goes to a 'To Read' folder.

Very occasionally set up a special project folder, but as seldom as possible.

Anything left over that needs to be attended to that day is 'starred', the rest are there but unstarred, to be dealt with when time available. Once every few days we go through his starred items together to check nothing has been missed.

Anything diary related he gets I just send to myself and deal with it, and file it away out of his inbox.

NoSquirrels · 09/10/2022 10:59

I have had many fabulous female bosses of a certain age (it’s a female dominated industry) and without fail all of them do the one-liner replies, short but (mostly) sweet. If you’re a brilliant boss - and I’m sure you are - then try it.

It works to empower people to use their own initiative, it works to make them be concise if they do need to email you, and it shows you’re busy doing higher-level stuff!

Definitely combine it with the ‘check only at scheduled times’ approach.

If you also do the ‘un-cc me’ response enough, it encourages people to add a ‘Boss, just for info, no need to reply’ disclaimer if they DO need to cc you, which is helpful.

Apollonia1 · 09/10/2022 16:27

I'm in a senior role and get 100s of emails a day. I work with the US so many come in overnight.
Every morning I spend an hour going through emails/slacks received since I logged off the day before.

  • I delete irrelevant ones.
  • I deal with quick ones (Eg expense approval)
  • I make a note in a pad of other ones - where I want to read something to catch up or where there is an action for me.
  • I create meetings for me in my calendar to action the key ones. I move these "action meetings" around as needed.

In the afternoon between meetings I do the same.

I don't bother with different email folders. Everything is just in my inbox, so easy to find. I found previously that keeping up with the different email folders became a job itself.

RomeoOscarXrayIndigoEcho · 09/10/2022 16:32

Set up rules. I use rules all the time to manage my inbox.

Ie you can set up a rule where you are CCd only for all those emails to go into one folder. Which you set up and check obvs.

Have an out of office response that goes on all emails saying you are dealing with a high volume of email and if it's urgent to [insert option of your choice]

I drag emails into calendar and reminders for important tasks.

I have folder set up with names like urgent/done/follow up and file accordingly

I flag for follow up with a date.

Hope some of these ideas help.

daisychain01 · 09/10/2022 16:52

Are you able to use MS Teams, so colleagues can support each other with queries about general processes. That will cut down a chunk of emails.

Focus primarily on client emails.

Empower your direct reports to only send approval requests for certain things (you'll need to set the authority levels, according to what they can reasonably do without having to ask first.)

create a trusting, no-blame and empowering culture - it will take time, results won't be instantaneous but you'll soon notice the difference. Your team will self-manage and know your door is always open for support.

Be aware you may feel like your team doesn't need you, when it becomes a well-oiled machine and they don't need to defer to you at every turn, that's a whole different feeling to get to grips with, but you will have a happy workforce and you will never be accused of micro-managing!

Wallywobbles · 09/10/2022 17:09

Use Slack instead. Much quicker to set up threads and answer there so anyone with the same question can see them.

Are there a lot of FAQs? If so write standard replies and put them somewhere accessible.

Ask for a secretary or assistant.

WhiteFire · 09/10/2022 17:09

Emails are stressing me out so much at the moment, to be fair the whole job is really, the emails are relentless.

Leakingroofagain · 09/10/2022 17:19

Delay email sends so you don't play tennis over a day but over a week instead, basically slowing everything down.

Use teams to respond to quick requests, it's much quicker, no 'dear...kind regards' and you can be more brusque without seeming rude.

Set up rules for certain people who are annoying or aren't a priority so you answer their emails once a week.

FleeUpFreeTime · 09/10/2022 17:32

Have email folders
crap in one
not crap but not worth it yet in another

leave the urgent in inbox then every morning sort through them.
cc replies that you don’t need to be aware of delete
cc replies you need to aware of but don’t have to respond to put in not crap folder

many you can send to brother to deal with send them on and move it from inbox to another folder

youll soon whittle them down to an important 10 or so a day.

Handsnotwands · 09/10/2022 17:37

This is what I do

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