The silent treatment/stonewalling (although I didn’t realise there were names for it) happened quite a bit in my relationship. We’re now divorcing. My decision after he ignored me for weeks, suggested i wasn’t a good mum and the accused me of abuse at couples counselling amongst other things…
Anyway, we are in the same house for now. We went to mediation but he didn’t like the mediator, he had a solicitor now doesn’t and just generally doesn’t seem to be in a rush to get things sorted. I’ve issued a court application because we can’t go on like this forever.
I’m a bit of a mess (realising he may have been abusive, doubting myself, grieving the life I wanted…) The thing that I’m finding hardest is the silent treatment. He completely ignores me, won’t even look at me, even in front of our primary age DC. He will only communicate by text/email. It has been like this for nearly a year now and it’s really getting me down (understatement..)
I mentioned it to a friend who said ‘well, what did you expect? you’ve filed for divorce’ This wasn’t what I expected though. I don’t expect to be best friends, but I thought we’d be able to be civil for the kids (at least). Am I just crazy and I basically deserve this - the silent treatment for a year?
I feel like I’ve lost all perspective. Any support would be really welcome.
(I’ve posted a bit about the relationship/current situation under another name, but could so with some support)