Hi everyone, I am “step” parent so to speak.
so anyway.. trying to cut a long story short I’ve almost been around 2 years where as bio parents known each other 20 years and have a child of 9 years old.
my child’s dad also has 2 other children he doesn’t have contact with.
basically their child began training each week and we all went together which naturally grown me and bio mum closer. I had a moan here or there to her about how he was and what he was doing to upset me you know I got comfortable because she knew him and she gave advice or reassurance and even went so far to moan about him herself and tell me how he was with her.
fast forward 2 weeks ago, they had a conversation and she told him everything out of the blue but forgetting what she had said. So I confronted her about it which lead to her telling me I was irrelevant because she’s baby mum” number one and blocking me. It then lead to 4 more people getting involved and my partner told me I was wrong and told me I should’ve kept the argument between me and him and not confronted her. So basically who is in the wrong? I geniunely believed we were friends and she should’ve had enough about her to tell me to shut up or say she didn’t want to talk about him ( although she said her fair share) or even threaten that she was going to tell him if it didn’t stop I don’t know.
Anyway me and my partner/child’s dad were okay within a day and now I feel he’s hiding it from their child and her. So I feel like I need to apologise because she stuck her nose in. She doesn’t like him doesn’t want him wishes she never met him but half of me feels like there is an ulterior motive.
i want to sort it out for the kids and I know I’m gonna have to say sorry but she’s lost every bit of respect I had for her after that. It’s like she knew what she was doing she knew it would cause an argument but I don’t think she expected me to say anything to her.