AIBU to be offended by this?

[FlossMeg]

My boyfriend doesn’t like to holiday abroad. Holidays in warm climates are extremely important to me. So we holiday with our respective friends/family.

I always bring him back a nice present from my trips but he never reciprocates. He always asks me when I’m away what presents I’ve got him. So it’s clear he expects a gift from me.

He has just returned from a trip with his family. He didn’t bring me a present. I’ve been starting to get a bit annoyed by him and asked him why he hadn’t bought me anything.

He said that he didn’t think I wanted anything and when I pointed out that he always asked me for gifts, he said that he was only joking and that I was daft enough to keep buying them for him so he was of course going to take them from me.

I actually feel really upset about this. AIBU? He says that I am being overly sensitive.

🚩he's a user

Yes. Grow up

Did you ask him for anything? Maybe he thinks if you wanted something you’d just be direct and ask. Maybe he thinks given how you feel about holidays here you wouldn’t want or appreciate anything from here

Did you want a fridge magnet? or a box of fudge?

I think you're being overly sensitive.

'ooh what have you got me' does sound like a joke/light hearted comment so I can see where he's coming from.

I am not that, bothered about the gift buying - it is more the comment about me being ‘daft enough to buy him presents’.

Don’t buy him any in future.

Presents = a non issue. I’d see the tendency to holiday apart being a more annoying issue, and maybe that’s why the lack of presents is upsetting as it may show he was thinking of you when he was away

I dumped a boyfriend who said he “got homesick so couldn’t go abroad.” I knew that would be a miserable future because I wanted to travel and experience travel with my partner. I think this is more than the gifts but he’s showing what he thinks of you. Is that what you want?