To wonder why young teens are such arses?

[ericamorgan]

DD in year 7.

Discussing randomly between the form group their favourite sandwiches. DD pipes up and says her favourite is chocolate spread, but worst she ever tasted wash fish paste

The kids apparently found this funny, then one of the boys made up a rumour that she wipes her bits on bread and eats it = fish paste.

She's been going about the school and people are calling her 'fish paste girl'

I've got a meeting with her head of year today because she's cried so much over going in over this.

Previously she was very upset because she said 'that's great, I love a good grape, thanks' in response to her friend offering her something nice. One of the boys heard this and said 'did you say that's rape?'

Then a rumour started that DD had accused her friend of raping her. Ridiculous. DD's friend very confused and argued in DD's defence.

These things take a little while to blow over too.

Honestly, why do they come out with such shit?

Making a connection between a fishy smell and private parts is a learnt behaviour. I had almost exactly the same problem, I was in y7 and, wearing trousers, didn't have my knees pressed together under my desk.
Another girl told me loudly from across the room to shut my legs because I smelled of fish. Just engineered entirely to be unkind. She had had a difficult upbringing and I can only presume that someone in her life had said the same to or infront of her.
I agree, it's horrible and I hope your daughter is OK.

I’m so sorry. Teenagers are selfish savages who pick on others so that they don’t get picked on themselves. Hopefully the school can help. Year 7 means she’s only just started high school? What a horrible start for her, poor thing!

I'd expect school to be jumping on this behaviour with both feet and unequivocally telling them that this is not acceptable.

There are a lot of brain changes going on during this age stage, massive restructuring and firming of new connections, unfortunately social skills and emotional control/understanding are the last two areas to develop. It doesn't excuse rhe behaviour but it's part of the reason why they can be so savage to one another which is all the more reason for school to be on the case with correcting it.

She needs to grow a thicker skin. If you go in the school over this you will be going in a lot more. This is normal stuff for secondary school. She needs to learn to laugh it off or say something back and move on.