He has been sporadic at best, but did take them on holiday last year, despite a last minute panic about his dog because he hadnt arranged
He is supposed to be having DD14 this weekend, they had plans. Today DD seemed upset when I picked her up from her ASC but it took a while to get it out of her why. Turns out ExH is abroad on holiday and she found out from his instagram photos. He will be back next Thursday he explained when I sent him an angry message (which I know wasnt clever but I am furious).
I am so cross with him. He lets them down all the time but I keep encouraging, especially DD, but she normally makes the arrangements hersef with him. She still wanted to spend time with him and so I always kept things open. In the past he accused me of being difficult because he would sometimes show up at the last minute, wanting to do X or Y, when we already had plans. He wouldnt commit to a schedule and would flake at the last minute so I got to the point where I wasnt going to cancel our plans, or wait around for him to decide what he wants to do whenever he feels like it and he hated that so turned it around on me.
I know this is just him trying to control me, but AIBU to just give up. The only reason I was involved is because DS is disabled and cant arrange to see his dad himself.
I am doubly pissed off because DS is in respie this weekend and with DD out I was going to spend some time relaxing, but now that is out of the window.