Thank you all so much for your answers. I have been incredibly stupid not looking at statements and I'm surprised even more of you haven't told me so.Most of you have been really kind and explained things to me.
I have started to talk about this with my husband and the rest will be discussed tomorrow.
The good news is that we are going to pay 2.4k a month and the mortgage will be paid off in 8 years. He will pay 2/3 of it. Many of you have indicated this will clear it. It will be hard to manage though. But we need to do it.
I have also realised that I think , even better than the mortgage repayments, ( although I will definitely be looking at these) is that I can contact the company that secure the mortgage providers. They will have all the details for each time we have swapped and all of the financial details. I'll do this from work tomorrow .
The bad news is that I don't think my husband is explaining it accurately. He said that if we bought a house for 245 at 4 per cent it's the same as buying a house for 356k and that we have been paying off the difference. This sounds like bollocks because you have all been explaining to me how your mortgages have been steadily decreasing over time.
I had my own property years ago. I paid the mortgage and it decreased from the original amount.
He is going to put figures on paper to show me tomorrow evening!
We are both shit with money. Ironically we started getting into debt 20 years ago paying for childcare for me to work. Some of you are talking about a discrepancy of 100k though????
I guess I'll be busy tomorrow. I am really grateful for all the advice.