To think my baby might put more effort into sleeping

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She is wonderful but at 9 months old I’m rather tired at being woken up every hour.

She might, but because fuck you, she won’t, if she’s anything like mine I think she was 12 months old the first time I got more than 1-2 hours at a time, 16 months before she slept 4-6 hours and 5 years old before she slept 8 hours and in her own bed.

Just jumping in to add another "Ferber". Did this at 6 months when wakings were every 45 minutes (and had been since birth), and within 4 days, DS was sleeping 10 hour stretches without fail. Honestly, it feels awful doing it, but my son was so much happier and well-rested for it.

When? Because I'm several years in with no improvement but keep getting told it gets better

Lazy gits aren't they?

Can't even sleep properly! Xx

Same! My 8 month old likes watching those hospital emergency programmes at 3 in the morning 😂

My DS was up hourly for months, I genuinely thought I was going to lose it as by the time I got him put down and settled he was up again as soon as my eyes shut. Then he hit 10 months and just kind of figured it out? He's been great for about 7 months now. No sleep training and he mostly sleeps 7:30-7 unless he's teething. It feels like those first 10 months were a million years long when you're in the thick of it, but they do figure it out eventually (or they move out to uni and it's not your problem any more)

Yeah she should have moved out by now and holding down a full time job banging shapes together and paying board!

My baby didn't sleep uninterrupted until he started school, I was seriously thinking of renting him his own flat lol

Sometimes it’s needed. My 3yr old was like this. Once the nap stopped he would sleep from half 7- half 1/2ish wake again for an hour or so then bk to sleep til 7 lol thot nursery would help him sleep threw the 1/2am wake up but no. Now he wakes up for 2-3hrs 🤦🏽‍♀️😂 some kids jst don’t like sleep. My soon to be 18yr old was like this also until around 6months when he went in his own room. My 4month old on the other hand has been a dream from day 1 lol

@Signeduptosimplyreplytothis this is how I feel about my 3yr old. It’s still not better. Got past the hourly waking bt now he wakes at 1/2am for 2/3hrs at a time

My 6.5mo has just gone from 2 hourly wakes to hourly 😭 (he's just started crawling so I imagine he's wiiiiired).

Solidarity.

Oh no, it's broken. Can you return it for a refund?

It does get better op.

In my experience if it hasn't automatically improved by about 12m you have to either force the issue and sleep train or resign yourself to putting up with it til they start school.

@MolliciousIntent the thought of sleep training really pains me... However, so does waking up every hour. I had just about adjusted to 2 hourly but a few nights of this and I can tell my energy supplies are sapped, and I'm not able to give as much during the day.

Honestly... How much crying is involved? And what sort of temperament does your baby have? I'm not sure mine would cope.

I'm (mother of a 4yo and 14mo) a firm believer that you can change a child's sleep for the better. You simply don't have to put up with it. I'm a huge advocate for it in order to make your life (and better sleep is better for the child too) I nearly went to a very dark place when my first was young due to severe sleep deprivation. We hired a sleep consultant and it was the best £300 I've ever spent although you can find the information on the internet for free.

Whatever method of sleep training you decide to try ,and not all of them involve crying (although the ones that do are likely to work more quickly) the key is to be consistent. you HAVE to stick to it religiously otherwise it won't work.

our 4 year old was terrible but now is excellent at sleeping. They sleep 12.5 hours a night. our 14 month old just went through a rough patch after illness and after some encouragement is back to sleeping 7-7.

There was a lot of crying the first night, but to be honest there was a lot of crying before, anyway! Hours of screaming every night, so it didn't really make much difference. And afterwards, we got sleep and I stopped wanting to die every day.

@Calphurnia88 mine is v high needs and has been all her life. Much better when she's getting proper sleep though.