Hi op.
I have a degree from Oxford University, I was fortunate by accident of birth to have had parents with professional careers that afforded us a relatively comfortable upbringing. this meant I could gone to a good school and when I struggled with maths gcse, my parents paid for a tutor. My parents paid for music lessons, and I was able to achieve top grades and get into university which is recognised enough that meant I walked into a good job on graduating.
i had a great career until I had children. One of them has a severe disability. I am unable to work due to having to meet my child’s needs.
I have gone from earning a great salary for a 40 hour week to being given a benefit of just £69.70 a week carer’s allowance. Gone was my chance to pay into a private pension, or anything else that comes from being able to work.
At one point, I would’ve agreed with you, until benefits became my life. I have my hair cut twice a year because I cannot afford to have it cut more often than that. In between times my friend cuts a straight line for me. I haven’t had new clothes since before covid. My shoes are all worn. There is no one else who could care for my child as my parents are now elderly pensioners, I’m exhausted from regular night waking and all the washing and hospital visits etc that I have to do. I can barely
afford fuel for my car.
I have met lots of people in the same boat as me. Every single penny literally counts, every price rise in the shops is a worry. I am not sure how we will cope this winter.
Back in my corporate world years, I know how much money is being made at the top. Wages are kept low. I’m sorry if you fail to see why the money I need to keep myself and my children from starving and dying isn’t fair when your wages don’t rise, but believe me it is a pretty shitty existence at the bottom when people are blaming me and others in similar circumstances.
Every one of us is only one or two life events from falling to the bottom of society. I sincerely hope that you never have to experience it too.