Responding to school mum

[Countrylifemama]

hi there

ive jsut had a call from the school where ive been told my sons glasses were broken by another little one in his class. the other boy apparently stomped on them and they are now bent - anyways i then had a message from the mum saying shes sorry and not sure why he would have done that etc and asking about the cost of repair for damage.

Now to add a twist shes a school mum ive been out with in a group and my boy sometimes plays with hers (hes coming to his party too) - so not a random mum but we arent very very close either...

Im now stuck on how to respond? what should i say back to her im not sure on the context of how/why it happened but was told by the teacher it wasn't caused by DS/or that he said something to him etc

im just not sure how to reply to them

Just say ‘thanks for messaging, no need to pay’
You don’t know what happened and it’s easier for you if you don’t feel like she’s done you a favour.
Agree don’t discuss any finer details if can get nasty and gossipy surprisingly quickly.

I used to work in an opticians, NHS will cover repair or replacement if necessary, very common occurrence especially with very little children.

Yes they are so young I would respond with: it’s no big deal they’re young and these things happen, as far as I know it’ll be a free NHS replacement but thank you for the kind offer : )

They should be fixed or replaced on a GOS4 for free. I do loads of these each week, kids are always loosing or breaking their glasses.

I like the responses here. And the mum sounds great acknowledging her ds behaviour.

I'd respond "kids eh?! School have dealt with incident. I appreciate the offer to pay. I think nhs will replace but if not I'll let you know."

5yo do impulsive things and don't think about the consequences of their actions. Like you said I'm sure they'll be friends before the day is over and having a mum friend who will pull their kids up on behaviour when needed is a valuable ally.

It's the ones who excuse their kids behaviour and always act like they are angels you want to avoid!

She’s done the decent grown up thing. Just respond in kind. ‘Thanks for the offer, I don’t think so but I’ll let you know… etc’ then draw a line under it.