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If you felt intimidated by a police vehicle patrol would you wave them down?

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HatThatWearsYou · 05/10/2022 09:05

I recently related an experience where I, a lone woman took my dog out for a last toilet at night to a grassy area at the end of my 30mph residential zone street. I live in a small town with a low crime rate.

A police vehicle with two male police officers drove by me, then followed the road round, ignoring the other streets apart from the one they used to drive up to circle round and the rest of the town at large, in order to pass me a further four times in quick succession. The last two drive bys were at a greatly reduced speed and the final drive by was at a practical crawl and it was clear they were looking at me.

It only takes me about 2-3 minutes to walk to the grassy area from my door so the first pass bys were as I walked along a short street and the final two pass bys were when I had reached the grassy area. There was no one else around on the street at the time.

I have never had a problem with the police and I don't have a problem with the police or police patrols. In general I am very pro police and patrols.

I could understand them checking me out once, twice, maybe, just maybe even three times at a push but five times did feel a little intimidating and unnecessary.

I related this story on another thread and was told if I felt intimidated I should have waved the policemen down.

Regardless of whether you would have been intimidated by this particular incident, my question is:

As a woman, in this climate with faith in the police force at an all time low by women, would you wave patrolling policemen in their down if you felt intimidated by them late at night on a quiet street with no one else around?

YABU - I would feel completely comfortable flagging down the officers in the vehicle.

YANBU - I would not feel comfortable waving down the officers in the vehicle.

OP posts:
Bosky · 06/10/2022 17:47

Many years ago in my misspent youth I was bumbling around in the dark in torrential rain looking for the phone box in a local village (it had been moved half a mile up the road which was why I must have looked confused and lost - I was in a way!)

A Panda car passed by, turned around and drove up slowly behind me - but the coppers had the sense to wind the window down and call out asking if I was OK and if I was lost. (The were able to tell me where they phone box was and that it had been moved, which was what I needed to know.)

However, in the situation described in the OP, back then I would have been spooked and I would be if it happened today.

If there were houses around, I would go up to the door of the nearest house and ask for help. If there were shops or a pub, I would get inside as quickly as possible. The very thought that this could happen somewhere where I could not get to safety is quite terrifying.

This is not because I would think that they were police - such bizarre behaviour would frighten me because I would assume that they must be impersonating police officers and meant me harm.

Absolutely no way way would I engage with them or go anywhere near their vehicle.

OneFrenchEgg · 06/10/2022 17:55

Just for a nice story, my dd was drunk and had lost her friends and her phone and was asking strangers to borrow one to call me at 2am. When I arrived the police car that had spotted her and stopped on the other side of the road, drove off. She was able to mention that they had pulled up while she was being harassed by some blokes.
So it may have been a misguided attempt at making you feel safer?

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