What’s the best thing that’s happened in your life?
Tiredasamf · 05/10/2022 06:47
I’ve just been reading the other thread about the worst decisions people have made in their lives. I’m saddened to hear people’s stories and would like us to have a positive thread to go alongside it..
so what’s the best thing that’s happened to you, or the best decision you’ve made?
Am I being unreasonable?AIBU
You have one vote. All votes are anonymous.
gabsdot45 · 05/10/2022 11:44
I think I've written about this before on here. The best thing that has happened to me was making a firm decision to seek a religious conversation. I was brought up in a particular church but wasn't sure it was for me. I put in the work and received a conversation and have been a committed member of my church since.
Because of that I met DH, we have 2 children, we're actively involved in our church which we really enjoy and which brings us a lot of fulfillment and joy.
The good life I have now comes largely from that decision.
Lordofmyflies · 05/10/2022 12:41
Apart from DH and DC, probably deciding to move back to Cornwall. It gives a quality and pace of life which has become part of my routine. Being able to swim in the sea, walk the dog on the beach or meet up with friends/family of an evening bring me a sense of peace and connection that I strongly value.
Coffeetree · 05/10/2022 14:25
Going to uni. I did really well in school but my parents were struggling with their divorce and honestly fought me every step of the way for uni. Refused to sign paperwork, refused to drive me to uni halls. Really glad I persevered.
Travelled and taught abroad after uni.
Studied law throughout my 40s, qualified at age 50. Loved every minute of law school and my income doubled.
Met my partner, who enriches my life.
89redballoons · 05/10/2022 14:41
To echo almost everyone here, having both my babies.
A doctor told me when I was 13 that I'd never conceive naturally due to PCOS. I believed that and I wasn't sure if I wanted to put myself through the heartache of fertility treatment, so I largely wrote off the idea of DC in my mind. I was chronically sad about it. I hated my body because of the PCOS.
Well, I'm still not sure how because at the time I hadn't had a period for 3 months, but I fell pregnant with DS1 six months after my wedding. That pregnancy and breastfeeding seemed to flip a hormonal switch for me because as soon as I stopped BFing DS1 I fell pregnant with DS2.
They're now 2 years 10 months, and 6 months old respectively. I'm really in the midst of sleep deprivation from the baby and tantrums from the toddler but I love them both so fiercely. They're the most beautiful, funny and clever babies! Having them has also completely changed how I see myself and my DH.
Particularly the day I found out I was pregnant with DS1 and the day I gave birth to DS2 stand out in my mind as the best days of my life. I often replay those days to myself as I go to sleep. ❤️
oobeedoobee · 05/10/2022 14:43
Being brave at 18 yrs old and moving to London alone, then managing to work and saving enough to take 18 months simply travelling round the world at 21 yrs old.
I did this despite most of my family telling me I was being 'irresponsible', 'immature' and 'selfish' for upsetting/worrying my parents, and for not doing what they 'expected' of me i.e going to uni from school. they kept saying to 'finish your education and get a good career. You can 'travel' when you're older'.
I went to uni at 23yrs old, when I was ready, and I've never regretted a thing !
(Especially as I'm now, at 50yrs old, disabled and unable to travel without lots of help and equipment 🙁)
DashingWhiteSergeant · 11/01/2023 18:54
My kids, especially when they were kids. I loved parenting primary school aged children.
my dog brings me total joy.
I did something at work that didn’t financially change things for me, but it made my company a massive amount of money and I have never felt more professionally proud in my life.
OxenCart · 12/01/2023 01:23
I had a pretty unique, enviable career pre-kids. Gave it up because I had kids and DH also had a demanding career and we chose a complicated location for home.
Few regrets, stand by you can't have it all, something has to suffer and it hasn't been the kids.
DH has taken off in the last few years, menopause has made me less tolerant to the slow rate of change in my industry so I mearly dabble and the kids are ace. The stupid complicated home wasn't worth it.
Myfluffyblanket · 09/03/2023 02:13
One day I realised that ALL I ever did was go to work to earn money to feed my three teen boys and rebuild bits of my isolated tumbledown old house and fetch enough firewood and water to keep the four of us warm and clean . We were so poor .
I used to wish that something exciting would happen to break the monotony . Because I had no spare time or money for frivolities I knew I was unlikely to find opportunity coming knocking on my door and inviting me to be an integral part of something interesting .
However , then there was a knock on the door and it was two theatre directors inviting me to be an integral part (performing , hosting , facilitating , costuming) of their remarkable theatre production , Caerdroia .
So I did , and it was wonderful .
Emotionalstorm · 09/03/2023 07:15
Meeting my husband. To me, he's perfect in everyway. He's kind and funny and supportive. He was there for me and looked after me when I was diagnosed with a chronic illness. He is kind to my family and mentored my sister through uni and her first year working. He cooks amazing food every evening, catches spiders and makes me feel safe.
BansheeofInisherin · 09/03/2023 07:33
Lived in 8 countries from the age of 5, had some incredible experiences
Wrote several books that are not bestsellers but have a faithful following and had impact
Mentally resilient and very adaptable despite being dealt some awful shit. I had to be.
Soproudoflionesses · 09/03/2023 07:39
WhileMyGuitarGentlyWeeps · 05/10/2022 11:17
Having a daughter. Didn't need to have any more children as I only ever wanted a girl. She is mid 20s now, and is such a good friend. We have lots of laughs, are in touch every day (by whatsapp, text, or twitter, or phone or in person,) we share lots of interests, and we can depend on her for ANYthing. She is bright and intelligent and successful and funny. And I love her so much.
We had such a lot of fun when she was a child. Did stuff I hadn't done for over 20 years, (that I used to do as a child.) Re-living my childhood for a decade, and going to concerts and shows with her was amazing. Had a lull when she was between 16 and 20 as she wasn't in touch a lot coz she was a teenager at college and then at uni (and it was a bit uncool to be in touch with mum!) But it went back to normal 5 or 6 years ago!
Best thing to happen in my life was having her.
I was so upset after being told l couldn't have any more children but honestly having just my daughter is fucking fantastic. We have all sorts of adventures - just me and her - dh is self employed and we can't always include him in our plans but l love what she has brought to my life.
BansheeofInisherin · 09/03/2023 07:41
LuckySantangelo35 · 05/10/2022 08:59
So many are saying their partner and having children are the best things that have ever happened to them. Which is lovely but it makes me wonder -
if a group of men were asked the same question would they respond the same? Or would their answers be focused more on their careers or travel or other life experiences?
and secondly if your own children do not have children or even get married/have a long term relationship, would you feel that their quality of life would be limited and they would be missing out on the best thing their could possibly do in life?
To answer your second question, I don't particularly want my DC to marry or have kids. Not the way the world is going. Also there is far more to life.
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