AIBU?
pot, bang, weed
Bionicnose · 04/10/2022 23:26
We live in a semi detached house in the UK. Neighbour moved in 2 years ago? I bought an exercise bike. On exercising near enough our party wall I started to smell something like cannabis. The smell was never too strong, whenever I smelt it was volatile, one minute there, next minute gone. That sensitised me, though and I started to look out for it and I discovered that it is always near the door, above the top left corner. My partner doesn't smell it and when he does he says it is not pot. ANyway, he caulked around cracks int he wall and the floor and we insulated our door a bit more. Smell got less strong but still there. He caulked around fire alarm and around the lights on the ceiling. Smell is still there and the problem is I look up everything and I know there is no safe amount of second hand smoke. Partner can't smell it and has been increasingly annoyed by my sniffing and obsessing. The truth is I tend to obsess about my health and I find it annoying that this thing is out of my control. Even when I cannot smell the weed itself I can smell a sort of denser, pricklier smell, which is always there, and if I make a draft I can smell the little corridors of clean air in the denser air. Today I painted the part of the party wall that has hollow sounding bits in it and my partner came home while I was doing it. He wasn't happy to come home to 'chaos' and we had an argument (as you know arguments are never only about the current issue) and he said he absolutely will not do anything more about it and I should just accept the situation. I find that difficult because I quite like fresh air and now it is never fresh in our front room (which is the biggest room, includes the kitchen downstairs). Partner can't smell it and that's that. We talked to the neighbour twice, asking him to open windows when he smokes and if he could do the things we did in our house to insulate. I initiated talking to neighbour because partner wasn't up for it. WHen he did talk to neighbour he kept saying how difficult that was for him and expected me to be grateful. I am not sure if neighbour did anything about it because he is a private chap who only talks to you if he meets you. He seems nice but seems also secretive. I don't think he did any ventillating. So, am I unreasonable if I obsess about the second-hand smoke? It is not as strong as I have read in other people's stories. But it is detectable to me.
Am I being unreasonable?
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panicattheikea · 04/10/2022 23:30
of course you’re unreasonable to obsess about it. talk to your GP about your health anxiety
Bionicnose · 04/10/2022 23:33
Not very easy to see GPs these days. I am a student of Psychology. Health anxiety may have roots in one's childhood. (Neglect, etc.)
Bionicnose · 04/10/2022 23:41
But I suppose you are right. It will sort itself out. Worrying might do me more harm than the weed itself. It is just annoying that just because he can't smell it he nearly doesn't even believe me. His mate could smell it when he was here and my partner thought his mate only said that to please me.
DoodlePug · 04/10/2022 23:52
You only need tiny particles to smell something, it's not like you're inhaling it.
If you're worrying about what the weed is doing to your health you really do have a problem and require help.
Consider paying for help. I know we have an NHS so shouldn't have to, and iof course cost of living is terrible so lots of people really are choosing between heating and eating but if your situation would allow it then pay for it. Your mh and physical health are more important than any luxuries you buy.
quietnightmare · 04/10/2022 23:58
Do what you think so best. Options are
Report
Get help yourself
Forget about it
Speak to neighbour again
Bionicnose · 05/10/2022 00:19
It seems you never read up on secondhand smoke. Ignorance is bliss.
Bionicnose · 05/10/2022 00:22
@quietnightmare I love the nicknames. Thanks for the advice. I think reporting (to police) would not be nice. Asthmatic people use pot for relief. But it would be lovely if there were some controls on how one can smoke in one's house. (Insulating, etc.)
Bionicnose · 05/10/2022 00:25
@DoodlePug I'll sort something out, thanks. Luxury items are not me. :)
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