Drunken night out & memory loss. AIBU to be worried about what I’ve said?

[StraightStreet]

I was out at the weekend - my first night out of the year and I’m ordinarily not a big drinker. Unfortunately, I got a little caught up in the moment and definitely had a little too much.

As a result, my memory of the night is quite patchy. I was out with a friend of mine and I’m worried about what I may have told her. It’s one thing in particular that’s worrying me.

I have been having a rough patch with DH for the last few months. It’s nothing we won’t overcome, but it’s been a bit rocky. There’s a dad of one of the kids at school who I find really attractive. He’s lovely and kind but married and so am I. I would never, ever have an affair and have felt a bit guilty about these feelings. I’m worried I might have told her that I’m attracted to him.

Before I get flamed, I just want to reiterate that I would not ever act upon that and I know I’m probably only attracted to him because things with my husband haven’t been the best.

Im just really embarrassed incase I’ve told her this. It feels like a betrayal in itself. Also, her husband and my husband are friends so that is making me feel even worse. I just feel like a bad wife. My husband doesn’t deserve that!

I should add that I suffer from anxiety, depression and OCD. My OCD causes me to ruminate a lot. I have a history of blowing small things out of all proportion, but to me they feel like big things - as this does! So I’m not sure if it’s as bad as it seems or if my mental health is making this seem worse.

Hopefully you haven’t done anything too incriminating. I suppose you have to either speak to your friend or just try and forget it and not be hard on yourself. Hope you’re ok.

Don't worry, it's the daft or general chit chat stuff that you will have forgotten. If you'd poured out your deepest darkest secrets, you would have a flashback at least!

Its the horrors, our bodies way of saying 'hey this is hard work to process, please don't do it again. Have an anxiety attack to help you remember not to do it again next time'

@StraightStreet I speak directly from experience when I say that people with OCD cannot get away with getting blackout drunk 😉It's hangxiety on a whole new level isn't it?! Seriously though, you need to put the usual things in action, don't engage with the thoughts, don't try and work it out, don't desperately try and remember, don't ask for reassurance on here, and don't avoid your friend/ask her what you did. Ride it out and you'll be fine. Have a good cringe. So what if you admitted your eye wandered a bit? Drunk people say stupid things. However - ideally don't get that drunk again. Not just because of the OCD (although that's a very good reason) but just because nothing good ever came of it.

If my friend got wasted and confessed she fancied a dad on the school run I wouldn't give it a second thought.

Thanks all! And @BatsAtHome, you have definitely summed up my OCD habits perfectly there. 🤦🏻‍♀️ trying to resist the temptation!

Spot on @BatsAtHome
Can relate to all that myself too!
Ride it out OP, it's fine. It really is. You've done nothing wrong and don't bring it up with your mate again. It's drunk talk.

If you were my mate I would think nothing of it and just laugh it off. You've done nothing wrong and nothing has happened. So what you think someone else is fit, you've still got eyes in your head, you aren't dead yet. Your husband will come across other women he finds attractive during your marriage.

She probably won’t remember herself!

Someone I work with confessed something similar to me whilst they were drunk recently. I haven't told anyone else because it's none of my business. And I don't think any differently about them either. Try not to worry, OP.

You're allowed to find other men attractive even if you're married.

I totally feel for you and whatever you do in your private life is not for a bunch of random on the Internet to judge you for. It's not that bad, you could have woken up in far more compromising positions and it will pass xxx