I think I’ve made a mistake in always doing everything for them and how it’s coming as a big shock to them if I ask them to tidy their rooms sometimes, bring their plate into the kitchen when they’ve finished, pick up their toys, put their clothes in their drawers rather than on the floor. I’ve always done it all pretty much (and DH, he does a lot). It’s not that the kids don’t think they should help, I think they do see it’s just they obviously preferred it when I did it all! I work a lot more now so can no longer do it all. I am being patient (sometimes!), consistent (mostly!) and firm (usually!) but all the huffing, delay tactics, protests etc is getting me down a bit. But mostly I’m just wondering, how much should I reasonably be expecting? They go to a lovely gentle Steiner school down the road and they are not overworked at all; they have a lovely life! I feel I have let them down a bit by not encouraging good habits and an ethic of wanting to make a valuable contribute to our home, be helpful and useful and have some personal accountability for their own belongings. I’m wondering what the expectation is for those with children of similar ages?
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To ask my 9 and 8 year olds to help out around the house?
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Lesserspottedmama · 04/10/2022 16:17
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