15 year old on tinder!!!

Worriedmamma11 · 2022-10-04T09:52:06+00:00

I go through DSs phone from time to time. He’s in year 10 and knows I do this. To my horror I’ve discovered he is on tinder, lying about his age saying he’s 18. I’m beyond angry and scared he’s talked to many girls on there and even spoke about meeting up in real life. I’m really not sure what to do. He’s out at school at the moment. Help!

HappyHamsters · 04/10/2022 10:54

Delete the account
Set up parental control

VoiceOfCommonSense · 04/10/2022 11:27

Haha what a player. He’s probably just curious. I’d be more concerned with making sure he’s safe than trying to stop him.

Dotjones · 04/10/2022 11:30

Report it to the police, the women he is speaking to are technically sex offenders (the fact they think he's 18 is irrelevant - the offence is committed in them grooming an underage child). Remember your child is the victim in this, warn him about the dangers adults pose to him rather than punishing him.

brownbeauty80 · 04/10/2022 11:33

@Dotjones
Seriously...??

Antsinmypantsneedtodance · 04/10/2022 11:36

Dotjones · 04/10/2022 11:30

Report it to the police, the women he is speaking to are technically sex offenders (the fact they think he's 18 is irrelevant - the offence is committed in them grooming an underage child). Remember your child is the victim in this, warn him about the dangers adults pose to him rather than punishing him.

I really hope this is some kind of joke. Talk about an over reaction.

A 15 year old who is i assume gillick compendent willingly chooses to download an app, pretends to be 18 and chats to women and suggests meeting them. Please tell me where the crime and the grooming is here.

Bit different if the older women were knowingly approaching a 15 year old. I should imagine they'd all be mortified if they knew.

I think a conversation is needed. Disable his account and discuss the ramifications to the women he may meet. Education needed not punishment.

WhenISnappedAndFarted · 04/10/2022 11:39

Dotjones · 04/10/2022 11:30

Report it to the police, the women he is speaking to are technically sex offenders (the fact they think he's 18 is irrelevant - the offence is committed in them grooming an underage child). Remember your child is the victim in this, warn him about the dangers adults pose to him rather than punishing him.

I'm sorry - what?

A 15 year old has downloaded an app, created an account and is pretending to be 18 years old so he can match with women and he's the victim?

I'd delete the account, have a word with him and set up parental controls OP.

beonmywaythen · 04/10/2022 11:40

Dotjones · 04/10/2022 11:30

Report it to the police, the women he is speaking to are technically sex offenders (the fact they think he's 18 is irrelevant - the offence is committed in them grooming an underage child). Remember your child is the victim in this, warn him about the dangers adults pose to him rather than punishing him.

Omg do not report it to the police! It's your sons fault for going on there. Delete it and take away his phone

sourcreampringle · 04/10/2022 11:43

Report it to the police, the women he is speaking to are technically sex offenders

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

I bloody love mumsnet

RedHelenB · 04/10/2022 14:54

Dotjones · 04/10/2022 11:30

Report it to the police, the women he is speaking to are technically sex offenders (the fact they think he's 18 is irrelevant - the offence is committed in them grooming an underage child). Remember your child is the victim in this, warn him about the dangers adults pose to him rather than punishing him.

Not if he's set up the account of his own volition, and we know he's lied and said he's 18 and maybe he does look 18 on the photo. Delete the account OP and have a good heart to heart when he gets in .

KitchiHuritAngeni · 04/10/2022 15:02

Dotjones · 04/10/2022 11:30

Report it to the police, the women he is speaking to are technically sex offenders (the fact they think he's 18 is irrelevant - the offence is committed in them grooming an underage child). Remember your child is the victim in this, warn him about the dangers adults pose to him rather than punishing him.

This is peak MN 🤣

Please, log it with 101, it might be the missing puzzle piece to a bigger picture 🙄

Back in the real world op I'd definitely be confiscating his phone (get a cheap one he can't download apps onto if you need to stay in touch for whatever reason). You can set up his phone so all apps he downloads get emailed to you also.

Use this as the basis for a clear talk about Internet safety, and being appropriate, and how shit you do when you're 15 can bite you in the arse years later nowadays.