Friend didn't really acknowledge my birthday

[missbipolar]

I've been really close friends to this person for a while now- we chat every day although haven't seen in each other in a few months as neither of us can currently drive (my licence is medically suspended and she doesn't have a car)

It was my birthday yesterday and it was a pretty big deal for me as I honestly didn't think I'd still be alive to see this birthday. She knows my thoughts around it and that it was a big deal to me. She messaged me a couple of times asking how I was and if I'd heard back from a job I was waiting for. She also liked my post relating to my birthday. But she didn't actually wish me a happy birthday in anyway- aibu to be a little hurt by this?

Maybe you've been going on about making it to your birthday so she's actively not acknowledged it. I doubt it though, I think you're over thinking. Plus she "liked" your fb, so she may think that's acknowledging it. We're all different and can't always anticipate what someone else thinks or needs. She sounds like a good friend so I would forget about it, it doesn't seem worth getting worked up for

Oops 😬

She contacted you, checked up on you, showed concern. That’s all more important than the words happy birthday imo

This. OP, sorry you have been going through a tough time, but you are being oversensitive about this. Your friend has shown concern in several ways that are a bit more important than the act of typing out "happy birthday" on a keyboard. And by the way, the majority of people who do type out "happy birthday" on Facebook are just doing so on autopilot because Facebook has brought up a birthday prompt and they are doing the polite thing. It means literally nothing.

Don't be that person who is "hard work" about birthdays (wanting particular rituals to be followed and getting offended if they are not).

The point is that this friend makes a big deal out of her own birthday. Sounds like she expects a lot from OP (spa day and party organised by OP) and yet can’t even wish OP Happy Birthday.

I think the ‘friend’ didn’t want to go to any effort / expense for OP’s birthday and so instead of owning it, she’s pretended OP’s birthday doesn’t exist. Very shitty behaviour.

Anyway, baby zombie now I guess, unless @missbipolar has an update.