To find this sad?

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That so many nurseries I have worked in do not want you cuddling the babies? I find it so sad that parents are not aware of this.

What age of babies and do you mean if they are upset?

Aww they all need a wee cuddle now and then. Why dont they promote this?

Eh? That sounds mean.

How do comfort a crying baby or rock them to sleep?

How horrible. Definitely not the case at the nursery my kids went to.

I wouldn't have put my son in anywhere I knew wouldn't cuddle him. Often when I turn up he's being cuddled or carried around.

That's not even true. Some schools might not let you cuddle the nursery children but never ever babies. Even when a nursery worker isn't allowed in a school environment it's usually accepted when a child is in distress for some reason

I mean at all. Crying or not.
Babies aged between 3 months to 2 years.
Babies are just tapped on the back to sleep. Told off if you try and cuddle them. It's so depressing.

Why are you not allowed to cuddle them?

@Looneytune253 Why are you accusing me of lying? I have been in over 10 nurseries and only 2 allowed it.

Is it a self sooth strategy?

These bonkers policies are why my ds went to a childminder not a nursery

Not our nursery thankfully! There's always babies being cuddled when I drop off DD. And she's 3 and gets a cuddle if she needs one!

Been told that they get to used to being cuddled, that they will have their physical development ruined and that they will become spoilt.
All absolutely ridiculous reasons.

I stand by my comments. There's no way that's allowed in a nursery with young children.

Not a self soothe method. Just a stupid way of thinking.

They definitely cuddle them at DD's nursery. There is a window from the car park and when she was in the baby room I could see and they were often cuddling her when I picked her up. I dropped her off the other day and one little girl was snuggled in her keyworkers lap having a cuddle and a little cry and this is the age 3-4 pre-school room.

I agree with you that it's really sad if they don't allow it, and I would have thought it goes against EYFS guidance for little ones. It's by no means all nurseries though.

Cool @Looneytune253 I guess it's all in my imagination then?

My baby gets cuddled loads at nursery. And he goes to a chain nursery that doesn’t have the greatest reputation!

What a scary, anti-natural way to look after babies.

I think it probably is.

This was not the case at my DD's nursery. Children were regularly held and cuddled, particularly when they were upset. At nap time they were put into cots/prams and whilst encouraged to self-soothe, they would not have been left to cry.

@CuriousCatfish I must have dreamt the last few months then.

I’ve done 20 years in nurseries. Just choose loving ones. I visited one with a very strict affection policy and knew I wouldn’t let two minutes. I’m a cuddler and I’d want my babies loved, so that’s how I look after babies in my care.

just remember you can choose where to work lovely, and choose somewhere that fits your approach x

My DS is always cuddling the nursery manager. He quite often sits on her lap for a cuddle. They eat lunch together and she quite often has to bring him out to the car because he won’t leave! 😂