To think he would text me..?

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I've been seeing someone for almost a year. We pretty much message all the time. But when he's with his friends contact just completely stops? He went for a weekend with them and I didn't hear from him from 1pm Saturday until 9am Sunday.
I don't expect him to message all the time but is it OTT to have expected either a "having a good night" or an "im back safe" ?

YABU, my DH was on a 4 day stag this weekend and texted me twice which was fine by me.

YABU

Sounds like you need a life other than him.

Do you do that with everyone you’re close to? “Hi just getting into the office and I didn’t get run over!”, “Hi I’m out the shower now and managed not to drown”, “Hi just drove home from the supermarket and managed not to crash the car”…

Unless he has a serious medical condition or is a member of a gang or something it’s highly highly unlikely that he is ever going to be dead in a ditch. He’s having a normal weekend out not undertaking an ascent of Everest or having major surgery. Living life needing constant reassurance and for that to be confirmed every few hours sounds bloody exhausting. Much easier to assume all is well and everyone is ok and having fun until told otherwise.

That doesn't seem a long gap to me. If he was away with friends I'm quite surprised he texted at 9am on Sunday.

Hmmm, that really isn't very long for me. It's really only one evening! If DH was away for an evening, staying over night, I wouldn't particularly expect to hear from him unless there was a problem. But if a "good night" text every night is particularly important to you, then I guess you can tell him. It would seem a bit needy to me, but every relationship is different. Sounds like you are much more regular texters than us!

Just re-read and realised he texted you at 9am! That's pretty good going after a Sat night out with friends!!! I thought before that it was 9am and you were still waiting for a text. I'd leave it. honestly.

Dear Lord, 1pm to 9am the next day is a ridiculously short period of time - especially if he is away with friends. Of course he's safe, why wouldn't he be?
If he's away for the weekend, I wouldn't expect to hear from him for the duration. He has every right to feel suffocated and annoyed with your attitude.

Give him some space OP when he's with his friends;whilst some people are okay with this others aren't;it's a personal choice and his choice is space.You'll drive him away by not respecting a reasonable personal choice.