This isn't even a huge deal, I'm just tired and grumpy

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Me and partner have an 18 month old. She's brilliant and started (finally) sleeping through at about 16 months. I handled the vast majority of the night wakes for the entire 16 months even when I had gone back to work full time at 10 months. Anyway, we're through that. It was a big contentious issue but blah, whatever.

Now we take it in turns to do bath and bed and then the following morning get up. Last night I did bath and bed, and I have got up with her this morning. Tonight and tomorrow morning will be my partner.

The agreement is that if she wakes in the night, the person who doesn't have to be up in the morning gets up for her.

Anyway she's in a bit of a phase this last few days, be it teething or whatever, and she's had a few split nights. On the nights I get up I've stuck it out till she's asleep and not bothered him. His nights he will try for a bit and then will sulk and get me involved. Last night was one of those. I ended up awake from 12:30 when it started and then up and dealing with everything at 2:30-3 and I last looked at the time at 4 but was still awake ages after that.

I didn't get back to sleep till god knows what time and then was up at 6 with her.

AIBU to expect that he sees it through and doesn't have me doing both?

Why do you think this isn't a huge deal?

@ReneBumsWombats I think I'm minimising it even though it's bothering me, I have a habit of that haha

He will get away with as much as you let him. If you complain you will be a nag. You can’t win.
Id say LTB, but I’m feeling grumpy too so probably an overreaction 🤣

@KangarooKenny hahahaha yeah sod it off I go. Nah it's just annoying because he's so present and good in so many ways but when it gets to night time he just changes into this selfish little bed goblin and I hate him

We tried a similar approach but found it works better for us if one of us gets up and does an hour then we swap. Try following his lead and split the wake ups to give it a try? It might reduce his sulking if he knows there's a plan.

(Your partners sulking not the toddler's)

But yes YANBU

TBH I think the whole ‘taking in turns’ thing isn’t v supportive to one another as people like to think and can end up in parents getting bogged down in using sleep as a currency.