Cheating

[ScabbersChin]

I’ve been cheated on. One way to help me work through things is to really understand (obsess over) them.

Now I met this fella 6 months ago with the view for it to be very casual FWB. He insisted on relationship. He initiated the official talk. Quite early on too in fairness.

But then he’s back online looking for fun singles and threesomes.

Why? What is his mindset? He knew we could have been casual and non exclusive.

Pls don’t tell me not to obsess because I absolutely will. I have such a big week coming up and need to shift the out of my brain as have to focus one something much more pressing.

I guess he wanted control over you. Plus they all seem to fall harder than females initially - we keep our guard up for ages, then just as we give in - thrill of the chase over, time to move on. :-(

Well he didn’t want to share you or he doesn’t like you as much as he once did?

He wanted you to be exclusive to him. That's why he had that talk, so he knew you would be faithful.

He didn't want to stick to those terms.

Basically he wanted to have his cake and eat it.

He’s a dick, reminder that rush to commitment can be a red flag and that you can and should stick to your boundaries - if you want FWB, stick to your guns 💪🔫

I was in a veery similar relationship. The main factors were ego, insecurity and sex addiction.

sending huge hugs. People like him are dicks

He was bs-ing from the start to win you over. Don't waste another minute thinking about him. Move on.

He wants you beholden to him, to get the gf experience, to feed his ego - wanker!

All true. Thank you