To not want to go to work or do anything whilst struggling with morning sickness

[Electricstar]

I’m 8 weeks pregnant again after losing twins in the first trimester in April
Since 5 weeks pregnant I’ve been suffering with all day nausea and it’s getting worse and I’m struggling to make it through the working day and doing anything other than sitting in bed or moping about.
I’m eating and drinking small amounts
I guess my AIBU is do you think I’m being weak or silly to ask my employer for shorter hours. I’ve tried anti sickness meds and they made me feel worse. I just feel miserable whilst also feeling guilty I’m not enjoying this pregnancy seeing as I lost my last one

I completely get where your coming from and you are definitely not being unreasonable. I had the same thing all day sickness and it lasted until 23 weeks it did get slightly better but I had to quit my job as a chef as I wasn’t able to do it every smell made me sick. So definitely ask your employer for shorter hours it’s tough, pregnancy is hard and it’s okay if you don’t enjoy it but the little baby at the end is so worth it!

@FTMof1 thank you so much for responding
I will speak to them tomorrow. I’m hardly eating just about crackers and water!

If the drugs don’t work try some others, pregnancy sickness support has good info about what to ask at the Drs, quite often you need to try a few or a combination.

Are you vomiting or just feeling queasy?

I think it depends whether you are actually vomiting in which case maybe should be off sick, or just nausea.
Not that nausea is easy but it's hard to justify not working because of it.
I had all day sickness throughout both pregnancies. Was hospitalised for a period both times and had a few weeks off sick but managed to work up to 29 weeks when I left for maternity leave. I was still throwing up at 40 weeks.

How often are you eating? Allowing your stomach to completely empty / get hungry before you try and eat will make nausea worse. It's a bit counterintuitive.

A heat pack can also ease the discomfort of nausea.

Same with thirst - that will make you nauseous too if you don't keep yourself hydrated.

You have my sympathy. I'm 16 weeks and the awful nausea has only just gone away. It was like nothing I had never known before. Definitely ask work. I was going in and just staring at the screen as I was too nauseous if I tried to do anything else. Work were great and I ended up taking 10 days off, and then having a few weeks of reduced hours.

I had a similar issue with awful nausea - i eventually started vomitting but personally I think nausea alone is worse because it just stays. Which medications did you try? You need an anti sickness which is a pro kinetic (gets the gut moving). Drugs like cyclizine slow down gastric motility and causes stasis of the gastric contents which made me feel worse. I switched to domperidone. Again, there is a small risk of ECG changes with long term use so I had a limited number of tablets and only used it when the nausea was debilitating (for lack of a better word).

@TulipsTwoLips This is exactly how I am; staring at screen with nausea up to my eyeballs. How much did you reduce your hours if you don’t mind me asking

I found lying horizontal on the sofa and nibbling/sipping constantly was the only way I could keep anything down so I had to take time off work. My health and my baby's growth had to come first.

I was signed off for several weeks. I barely vomited but the nausea was completely debilitating. It was like a horrendous hangover, 24/7. Sick, dizzy, disorientated.

Its horrendous. Truly horrendous. I could have just laid down on the floor all day if it had been possible to do so.

I started an hour later and finished an hour later and still had my hour for lunch. My work are really people focused and my colleagues were very kind even though they don't know I'm pregnant, so that helped massively. I hope you feel better soon.