How disorganised are you?

[Merryoldgoat]

To be clear, I am not an organisational wizard and have a fairly chaotic (but clean) home and life can be overwhelming but broadly speaking we muddle along.

Yesterday my sister invited me to my niece’s birthday party (she’s 4). The party is today.

She said come at 12. Then 1. Now it’s 2.

I know life is busy but surely you aren’t taken by surprise for your child’s birthday party?

I’m just being moany as I have work to do this afternoon and the window I have to do it is closing and I am having to shit stuff around but I find it frustrating.

My family are all like this. Late for everything, everything last minute, nothing organised and I find it really hard to plan anything if I’m seeing them.

So

YABU - it’s not a big deal suck it up

YANBU - it’s a pain and should be fairly straightforward to just plan a simple kids party more than a day in advance

Is there any ADHD in your family or do you think it's just a learnt habit?

I am utter chaos. I hate it but I seem incapable of change. I am a mess and my house is a mess. I have no idea what I'm doing or where I'm supposed to be until my phone calendar tells me. I can't tell the time or work out how long it takes to get somewhere. I cant let people in my house as its just awful. I never contact people because I think they don't really want to hear from me. I try to stay out of people's way. I hate people seeing the chaos I live in so I never ask people in. It's not dirty but it's old and I have no storage. I can't stick at anything or finish things. I just sleep all day and feel overwhelmed. I feel like my life is so chaotic its got very small. I'm so disorganised, I couldn't plan something. I didn't know my birthday was the next day. Sometimes I don't know what month it is, I don't know what year it is. Friends think its funny but it's awful feeling so behind and confused. I would love to be organised but I've never managed to organise even a children's party. So yeah I'm disorganised to the point of chaos. People think I'm chilled out but really I haven't got a fucking clue what's going on. Its depressing.